Dear MIMsters: In Totality, My Husband Is Great, Except For This One Thing

I have been married for 8 years. I dress well as a young lady and all and I must mention that my husband cares for the kids and I in totality. He’s been great to me sincerely but I am not happy. Each time I enquire about us, he tells me he doesn’t know what’s wrong with him too.

Sex has always been an issue between hubby and I. Surprisingly, it wasn’t like this while we dated. My hubby hardly approached me for inter course. We only get to have sex when I reach out to him. I have cried and begged him to change, he makes promises to but but still does not make any changes. I have reported him to his older siblings and parent twice. They all adviced him to play his role, yet without any positive results.

When I was ready for our second child, I reported the matter to our pastor who invited us for a chat. He asked him what actually is the problem and he said that he doesn’t know what is wrong with him. He agreed to change after I conceived our second child but till now that my baby just clocked one, my hubby hasn’t touched me. We’ve been living happily like flatmates.

Earlier in our marriage, I had noticed he was unfaithful which we battled even though I got too busy with the kids and my business to nose around. I have prayed and fasted for years over this and have just decided to take it off my prayer list recently.

We discussed with a doctor and a sex therapist online though he said he prefers one on one.

I really don’t know how to handle this matter again.