Why “’Couple Goals’” is the greatest illusion of the 21st century By Sonia Ogbonna
Sonia, wife to Nollywood star, IK Ogbonna is a motivational blogger and an author who left her country and family behind in Serbia to start a new one with the love of her life.
In a post outlined on her Instagram page, the mom of one says the term, ‘couple goals’ is the greatest illusion of the 21st century and goes further to offer an explanation as seen in her post below…
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“Couple Goals” is the greatest illusion of 21st century. You think someone’s life is perfect because of a nice picture on Instagram. Lol. My friends, my wisdom didn’t come from books.
My write ups are result of many lessons I have learnt from my struggle, pain and frustration. However, I choose to keep it real because there is light in truth & we don’t have to feel like losers just because things don’t seem to be perfect all the time.
Honestly, I have never liked the idea of marriage, I hated it because it seemed like a zone where we appreciate nothing and demand for everything just because.
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Even today I feel like the whole “marriage” thing is not there to serve us, but to serve society by impacting tones of norms that are meant to control us, lock us inside the box and decide what is wrong and right on our behalf.
It took me time, tears, depression, endless arguments and literally madness to understand the purpose of two people coexisting together.
But it clicked somehow,somewhere..UNION. Just two people and their own world. I do love the idea of deep, HONEST friendship that forgives imperfections and helps us grow and become better. But I’m also aware that that’s something we gradually need to learn how to apply in real life.
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At times we all forget to count blessings for a moment or two. We become greedy ,we seek for flows ,we forget to appreciate. We demand love but we don’t ask ourselves if we are giving it out as well. Many times I forgot to give credit to this man of mine for everything that he is.
Do you know how difficult I am to handle?Strong minded woman with revolution on her mind 24/7. Lol. Average man’s pride can’t deal with me. Ever.
I made many mistakes but the biggest one is not appreciating you every moment of my day. Thank you for babysitting me from the time I was barely 23???? I know it’s not easy dealing with a savage like me that doesn’t like being tamed/”submissive” (I hate that bloody word)????And freedom you gave me is the highest proof of love you have for me.
Nothing is perfect about us, but at the end of the day we always remember to go back on the right track whenever we get lost. I love you Boss????.”
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Photo credit: Instagram
Spot on Sonia.
Good one