Dear MIMsters: How Do I Handle a Second Break Up In Four Months?

I am dealing with issues for which I need advice. I came out from a toxic relationship four months ago with a guy I started from the scratch with, who when God started blessing him, his attitude towards me changed.

My problem now is that I met a guy who has a shop close to my house and has been asking me out. He’s been asking me out since when I was in that toxic relationship. I declined because I don’t know how to double date. So after I broke up with my ex, I gave this new guy, Femi a chance. We started dating a week ago.

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I found out that I like Femi a lot. Recently, he told me he was sick and needed money. I didn’t have any money with me, so I was worried that I could not give him a helping hand. When I called him yesterday morning, we spoke well. But when I tried to call again in the afternoon, he cut my call. I thought he was busy. Later, I tried and tried without success.When he finally picked, he said he was angry with me.

I ran to his workplace, only for him to tell me that he called his ex and told her that he wasn’t fine and she transferred 5k to him. I feel bad because he has blocked my line after ignoring my calls. I feel betrayed.

I have been asking him for my shoes which I left in his house when I went the other week to help him cook, he said he was going to send his boys to send them but he didn’t. When I went to his place, I met his ex with him in his shop and she was feeding him. I felt like the ground should open and swallow me. He pretended like we had nothing together. I just respected myself, took my shoes and left and he didn’t call me afterwards. I texted him online, he read my text but didn’t reply.

My problem now is that I have already slept with Femi, so I feel like I look so cheap. My chest is ripping out. I have told him about my past, my introduction that didn’t work out with my ex due to domestic violence and all, and he assured me that I was in a safe hands.

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I need your advise. How do I handle this break up a second time? People already know that my previous relationship didn’t work out after having the official family introduction and now this? It is very painful and I feel very ashamed.

The reason why I dated him was because of the assurance Femi’s brother gave me about him. He even told me that Femi was in a toxic relationship previously and specifically begged me to be good to him. He was very convincing. Now I feel so betrayed and pained. My chest has been heavy since.