A Nigerian Food Connoisseur, Samuel Otigba, has shared his horrific sexual abuse story as a child to campaign against sexual assault against men. Child sexual abuse is real and the abusers are mostly people who are closest to us. Most of the time, we hear of the girl-child being sexually abused while we think the boy-child can defend himself or can’t fall victim.
Contrary to this common beliefs, male child sexual abuse is very much real. Young boys get molested too and it’s sad that the society does not appreciate the gravity of sexual abuse against boys.
According to Samuel, he was sexually assaulted by his maid at age five and sexually molested at the age of 10 by a female family friend and was also introduced to porn and BDSM at the age of 13-16 by his mother’s friend who was babysitting him as at then.
Samuel went on to reveal that his virginity was taken by force, causing him to hate women while growing up. He further disclosed that he battled PTSD (Post-traumatic stress disorder) as a result of the abuses.
His extremely disturbing story was shared in response to a Twitter user @DrOlufunmilayo tweet which reads;
”If all young boys under 15 years old were interviewed, and all men decide to openly talk about their childhood; it would be tears and pain. Because many aunties, housemaids, female family friends, older female family members are all rapists, monsters, abusers and sex offenders.”
”Raped at age 5 by my maid. Sexually molested age 10 by a female family friend. Introduced to porn & BDSM age 13-16 by mother’s friend babysitting. My virginity was taken from me by force, hated women growing up, had PTSD which affected my confidence as a child.
My cousin, was also raped, saw my struggles, introduced me to a youth group called HYPE & guided me through the process of healing.
#NotaVictim any longer. I understand empathy, love & forgiveness, “cause the worse kind of victim is one who makes victim of another”.
My cousin, was also raped, saw my struggles, introduced me to a youth group called HYPE & guided me through the process of healing.
#NotaVictim any longer. I understand empathy, love & forgiveness, “cause the worse kind of victim is one who makes victim of another”
I was addicted to porn as a teen, worse coping mechanism ever. Imagine introduced to an energy you’ve no clue how to control, abuse was imminent. Days I’d cry to God in teens church asking for help Remember one day, mum asked “what happened to the sparks in your eyes”
Finally gave her an answer last year, my mum cried so much, she blamed herself for everything, wish she never left us at home for church, how did she miss the signs? Explained she wasn’t to be blamed for others mistakes. NCF helped, Found God, got healed.
8. Mood swings Relics of abuse will always be there.
I see a lot of men saying “i enjoyed it”. That’s a coping mechanism bro, the damage is alive in your subconscious but you don’t know till you make victim of others. Why most men rape & why some men don’t value women except sexually motivated.”
Parents, we need to pay attention to the boy child too. One of the male victims of sexual abuse once said that parents should watch out for their boy child’s compulsive behavior, his sudden mood swings… which might be his way of dealing with the insanity he was going through.
Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) is a mental disorder that can develop after a person is exposed to a traumatic event, such as sexual assault, warfare, traffic collisions, or other threats on a person’s life.
Symptoms may include disturbing thoughts, feelings, or dreams related to the events, mental or physical distress to trauma-related cues, attempts to avoid trauma-related cues, alterations in how a person thinks and feels, and an increase in the fight-or-flight response.
These symptoms last for more than a month after the event. Young children are less likely to show distress, but instead may express their memories through play. A person with PTSD is at a higher risk for suicide and intentional self-harm.
BDSM is a variety of often erotic practices or role playing involving bondage, discipline, dominance and submission, sadomasochism, and other related interpersonal dynamics. Given the wide range of practices, some of which may be engaged in by people who do not consider themselves as practising BDSM, inclusion in the BDSM community or subculture is usually dependent upon self-identification and shared experience.
The term “BDSM” is first recorded in a Usenet posting from 1991, and is interpreted as a combination of the abbreviations B/D (Bondage and Discipline), D/s (Dominance and submission), and S/M (Sadism and Masochism).
BDSM is now used as a catch-all phrase covering a wide range of activities, forms of interpersonal relationships, and distinct subcultures. BDSM communities generally welcome anyone with a non-normative streak who identifies with the community; this may include cross-dressers, body modification enthusiasts, animal role players, rubber fetishists, and others.
