Author, Toni Tone Shares Her Mom’s Advise On Why It’s Important She Marries A Man She’s Physically Attracted To
British-Nigerian author, Toni Omotola Adenlé, known professionally as Toni Tone has explained the importance of marrying someone you’re physically attracted to based on her mother’s advise to her about marriage.
According to Toni, her mother told her to marry someone she is physically attracted to, that way even when she is angry with the person, their looks alone will make it easier to deal with them.
She added that when you marry someone who is not fine, when they annoy you, seeing them alone will just make you angrier.
Her tweet reads:
“Marry someone you’re physically attracted to because they will annoy you at some point, and when they annoy you, at least you will be looking at someone who is fine. Someone who is not fine to you will just make you angrier.My Mother. She followed up with “When your Dad pisses me off I just look at him and think this man is good looking sha.”
My parents have been married for 34 years by the way! Also because people are TOO LITERAL & ARGUMENTATIVE on here, she believes mutual love is what’s most important. Ppl shouldn’t base relationships solely on looks. It’s just a joke she makes about attractiveness being a PLUS.
Lastly, “marry someone YOU’RE physically attracted to” doesn’t mean they have to look like a model to everyone else. So no it’s not about feeding into societal standards or however some people wanna spin it. It’s about what YOU like. What YOU think is attractive.
Please for the love of God don’t suggest things that weren’t even implied! I could have written: “Marry someone who is patient” – My Mother Some of you: “WHAT?!!? WHAT ABOUT MARRYING SOMEONE YOU LOVE?! SOMEONE KIND! OMG! PATIENCE ISN’T EVERYTHING!” Bruh… FFS.”
Her post went viral and started a debate, with many asking if physically unattractive people do not deserve love too.
Some went as far as insulting Toni’s boyfriend’s look.
@Anonymous:I don’t believe that. If a man or woman is beautiful inside when he or she annoys you, you will not be too angry because what you are seeing is that inner beauty which is covering his or her physical being.
@Beauty:
I have a physical disability now but was not born with it. My son’s dad who was asking me out before my accident still persisted after the accident where I lost my hand.
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@Brian:
Most people marry someone they are physically attracted to, even women. That dude that you are so attracted to, when his character begins to show, he can suddenly become ugly to you. It is a thin line between physical attraction and being utterly repulsive. And that is not even marriage o. Just relationship. See all the physically attractive men and women that are divorcing their partners left right and centre today. Physical attraction and beauty undeniably gives a mile-long list of benefits. But letting it, or any one thing be what you think can help keep a man or woman in stressful times of your relationship is useless. Self-worth or relationship rooted in those kinds of flip-floppy emotions is destined to die on the same altar it was built on: time. Even Jay-Z cheated on Beyoncé. She nor fine reach? Character ages better than beauty or physical attraction.