Dear MIMsters: My Husband Using Me as A Human Shield Is Making Me Reconsider My Marriage
The story of this British man who used himself as human shield and took three bullets in place of his baby mama in Tunisia has made me doubt if I made the right decision to remain with my husband. She wasn’t even a wife oh, but he was willing to give his life for her.
In my case, it was quite the opposite.
Last year, my husband and I were attacked by armed robbers who stopped us on the road disguised as policemen. They told us to get out of the car while the ransacked the car, my bag and my husband’s pocket for valuable items.
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Even though they took our phones, tablets, jewellery and the little change we had on us, the robbers were angry that we didn’t have enough. One of the robbers grabbed my husband angrily, demanding why he didn’t have more and cocked his gun as if he was going to shoot.
My husband pulled me in front of him, shielding him from the robber. I tried to pull away but his grip was tight. I know our marriage has not been great but I didn’t think in my wildest imagination that my life did not mean a thing to this man.
On top of this, he cheats and lies. We have kids but he didn’t consider that when he used me as a shield.
So, I ask, should I have divorced him? Am I stupid to have remained with him? Would you remain married to a man who has shown no value for your life?
I can’t remain with such a man oh at all. I would divorce his ass immediately. What rubbish. Madam that man doesn’t love u one bit abeg. So leave if u can Mtscheeeeeeewwww.
Message.. Hahahahah @he used u to shield himself please pardon me but itz somehow funny. Ok to the matter on ground one thing I have to tell you is in this kind of situation you ought to advice urself cause to me such man is not worth it but if u can cope with him then decide for urself cus no1 is going to be staying wt u guys and that’s why I said the best advice is gonna come from u so advice urself n kw the positive way outta it.
Lol. I couldn’t help laughing but it’s not funny. If I were u, I would consider still being with him seriously
Jeez is this real i can never remain with him,
Hell no I won’t remain with him
So you want to leave him cos a man took bullet for the wife? What if its the wife that took bullet would you have said you want out. Ever since it happen if you had taken this that decision it would have been adviceable not because you saw someone that dat did the opposite.
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You re already married to him so there is no need divorcing him over such issue. It could be he did dat out of extreme fear not bcos he didnt care about you.
Hmmm, there is nothing better than a man who truely fear God. It’s well with ur marriage.
U condoned that act all these while,why contemplate divorce bcos of what happened in someone else’ relationship.l would have known what 2 advise if this was posted immediately it happened.This is an after thought
its quite crasy though.hmmnnnn.but I font tink u should divorce though bt d man is not worth ur stress
That man has no single love for you @ all, u know where u stand in his life now so the decision is yours to make.
Are u for real. He’s so selfish and self centered if u can put up with him fine but if u can’t u know what’s good 4 u
He is a coward
Talk to your husband and ask him if he still loves you
This institution called marriage can be very tough on women… just follow your heart, but I will advise U to stay and watch
Dat your husband is funny …..he can’t even protect his wife, so bad of him is not a good husband.
Dis is serious and u really need to ve a serous thinking
Wait until he kills you himself since the robbers couldn’t kill you.
I will divorce him that very instance because he never loved me, so Wat is d point of staying with him
Wow!He did that,coupled with his cheating and lies,and you still stayed back?What is wrong with you?Now you came back to your senses because someone else’s man took bullets for her.I don’t even know what to tell you
Dear poster i think your husband did that because he was scared. please forgive him,pray more about your marital problems. God will restore love in your marriage. It will surely end in praise!!!
Lol,funny madam but seriously thy guy did it out of fear just relax and enjoy ur marriage
Lol, what marriage should she enjoy? The lies and cheating?
hmmm very few men are good.stay back but now with ur full senses active.just know u re alone in that marriage work hard and support urself and let him take full responsibility of d household,then relax and watch him.divorce is out of place for d sake of the children. outside is still not d best,then pray more often .
Everyone is shouting Divorce hi., divorce him. Na wah oooo. Must everything end in divorce? Madam ur hubby was scared,hence his actions.Forgive him and move on jor
Pls move on with your marriage. Don’t you know that SELF PRESERVATION is the first Law of nature? Your husband responded as natural as expected.
Dear poster,aside him cheating and the lies I dont think the mere fact that he is a man means he fears nothing or is a coward. Or the fact that he loves makes him automatically a brave and strong man or loving automatically makes people fearless. Not all lovers will take bulleets for their beloved.If you only judge him based on what someone did for his baby mama then there is a little bit of bias.Human safety needs was in action he was scared and you were too.His basic human instincts prompted that.So think twice and see him as a human being as you are when faced with danger.