Iledare Oluwajuwonlo, better known by his stage name, Jaywon, who joined the first time dads’ club in November 2016, has revealed that he is not psychologically ready for marriage yet.
In an exclusive chat with Punch, the multiple award-winning singer who welcomed a baby boy with his longtime partner in Europe explained that he does not plan to be a father at this point in his life but since it has happened, he has to be man enough to accept his responsibility.
”The truth is that I am not ready for marriage right now and it was an understanding between the mother of my child and I. There are lots of things that I need to accomplish. Right now, I just want to be responsible and I don’t think you need marriage for that. I just want to be responsible for my child and his mother.
I did not plan to be a father but when things like this happen, you just have to be responsible enough. It was not planned, it just happened and I have to be a man.
You cannot pressure people to get married and that is what our parents and a lot of people do not understand. You cannot pressure a child to be married when he is not ready because if you do so, there could be problems. Most of our parents don’t realise that because all they want is marriage.
I know of some people who were forced to get married when they were not ready and the union did not last for a year. The problem is that they were forced into it. My mother understands me and she knows the implication of forcing me to do anything.
I am not scared of marriage but I am not mature enough for it. Psychologically, I am not ready for it. For about a year, I have cut down on some things that I have been doing and that is because I am preparing myself just in case I find myself waking up next to someone for the rest of my life or consult another party before I make a decision. It is a big problem because as an artiste, I have to be on standby all the time.
My job involves spontaneous travelling. The person that I would be with has to understand and she needs to know that she would sacrifice a lot. I need to let the person know first and also improve on myself. I am more responsible than some married men and I know this. If the mother of my child and I understand ourselves well enough, we could get married,” he said.
Congratulations to him
u not psycologically ready fr marriage but u are for.sex
He’s not psychologically ready for marriage, but psychologically ready for a baby mama smh.
I don’t blame these charlatans, I blame the lazy ass girls opening their legs for them.