Dear MIMsters: Is It Time I Left My Husband For Good?
Is it time I left my husband for good?
My heart is broken. I cannot not sleep, think or do any other thing. All I can think of now is my cheating hubby.
I never knew he was a cheat and a big liar at the same time. We’ve been married for close to 10 years now, yet, I cannot count one year we have lived in peace. It’s been one problem or the other. He beats me, assaults me, talks to me anyhow he wants. He abuses my family at any slight provocation even in the presence of my kids. He just doesn’t care. He calls me names like fornicator, a prostitute, even in public. He doesn’t have a single regard for me, it hurts.
This a man I knew when he was nothing and the kids are seeing all this. He doesn’t take care of me, even now that his business is picking up seriously.
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Lately, I noticed he is having an affair. When I tried calling the lady on phone, my hubby came back one midnight and said that he has told the lady to pick my calls to inform me that she is pregnant with his child. He told me bluntly without considering my feelings.
Right in the presence of my kids he said, “ashawo pack your load and go. I’m married, my wife is pregnant for me. I don’t want you again. Go to your father’s house.”
I complained to elders who called him but he denied everything. My kids don’t like the way their daddy maltreats me. They always complain, and besides, he doesn’t have a cordial relationship with them at all.
The humiliation is just too much. I think it is high time I move on with my life. This man has humiliated too much even though I have two boys and one girl. I need your urgent advise. I’m going mad right now, I can’t sleep this night, my children are not happy about what is going on. I have never cheated on this man.
Sorry you’re going through all this…your husband is an asshole….leave him and go get happiness else where…You worth something better. Life is too short
Diid u say beat? And u are still with him? Hmmmmmmmmmm
Humiliation at its highest…DUMP him like a trash..otherwise this will affect ur kids. He is absolutely abusive!!!! What he’s doing will affect you and ur kids for the rest of your life, leave now and make amends. You have to do something to keep yourself and kids emotionally safe. Emotional child abuse is defined as the constant attack of a child or youth by an adult that negatively affects the child or youth’s self-worth. It is important to note here the word ‘constant’. What a man.
The behavior of parents has a psychological effect on d children(positively or negatively).I would advise a legal separation n ur hubby be made 2 take responsibility of his kids.lf u are a fulltime house wife,u have 2 get something doing 2 take care of ur kids(in case he defaults).This life is too short 2 spend unhappy n raising kids in such a home is not gud at all
Nne pack ur bag and leave
This isn’t good at all. The kids are been affected here so please if you know you can properly cater for your kids pls move out as soon as possible and save those kids. The Lord will see you through!
Message.. Seperate frm him n go wt ur kids, try make urself happy dough nt easy n one day he s gonna cm bk to his senses n realise he has lost a precious gold. Sm men re so stupid dat 99% of dem will nt make heaven wt dese devilish habit of dem. Lord hv mercy n preserve our marriages frm evil ones
Madam poster advice yourself..
Madam even God knows you have tried 10yrs living in this condition is so pathetic and disheartening…Just leave his house if possible with your kids…you can still get a better life
When there’s life there’s hope.if you die(God forbid) what will become of your kids?
This man doesn’t need you and your kids in his life..take a very long walk
I feel ur pain gosh so.e men eh
Pls pack ur bags and kids and move on. The handwriting has been on the wall all the while and Pls don’t let the kids go through any more trauma cos it might affect them. Bring a happy single mother is better than being a battered and bitter married woman. Move on dear and u will be surprised how things will fall in place for u. It is well with u
This is heartbreaking. The can get seriously affected. Sometimes the best option is to walk away.
*kids*
Try a trial separation
Why are you still in his house?
Pls move away from that abusive environment.
Stay away from him, he doesn’t see you as his wife
Leave him and go because he does not server very you at all. You shouldn’t allow your kids to continue witnessing all these because it is going to affect them. Good luck
I’d suggest you move on.
Like I always say,am not supporter of instant divorce except on very rare instances. However, file for legal separation or just move out with ur kids. Don’t divorce yet just incase something else has a hand in this.
You tolerated more than I even would. That’s just the height. Do not be fast to grant him a divorce,don’t make it easy for him and the lady.
Except u really want to let him go. Hope u have a source of income.
He even has d guts to insult ur family. They should have thought him a lesson.
Don’t mind me,I can be a bad ass when I want to be,something’s for me don’t just go unpunished.
Separate please before u blood pressure goes up
Please I beg you as far as you know the kids are affected and you yourself please have mercy on those innocent creatures, stand up and fight for yourself and gain your confidence leave that marriage with your children get a life outside him the Lord would see through….. Because if he kills you now those kids would be homeless and may be grateful abused…. Good luck
Yeah,it’s high time you moved on with your life.You deserve better
Hmmmmm… Cos of mistress some men self, in all look after ur kids nd make dem happy dats wat u need nw pls nt Mr Panel beater
10 years of marriage. God forbid bad thing.
Pls leave dat stupid asshole b4 is too late if u stil ve some dignity left
Leave him and move on…he is an asshole
Move on dear think about ur childrens future
Oloriburuku husband, so sure u still love him.
my dear its time to go ders nothing dere left fr u
Stop crying.I believe the cane the used to flog the first wife is still under the bed and she will surely get a dose of it. Karma is real.