“There is no manual for a successful marriage”- Nollywood Actor Muyiwa Odukale

Nollywood actor Muyiwa Odukale, shares his marital journey with his wife of 13 years, Adeola. The couple who met in University in 1998 tied the knot five years later and are blessed with a son.

In a recent interview with Punch, Muyiwa have some insight into his marriage:

How would you describe your marital journey?

“It’s been full of adventure; I mean the good, not so good and exciting times. We have scaled these hurdles by learning each day and trying to be more patient with each other.

We had our expectations when we got married, as it relates to having few children, but God has humbled us and we now appreciate the fact that God’s plan is better than man’s expectations.”

How have you handled trying times in your marriage?

“There is no manual for a successful marriage. You just have to understand your uniqueness as a couple, learn to adjust and improve daily. Definitely, there would be good and bad times.

There would always be things you would struggle with, challenges that you feel you may not overcome but with patience, a forgiving heart and humility, your love and affection for each other will grow.”

What is your advice for couples who are just about to go into marriage?

“Let them forget the world and think of themselves first in all that they do. Couples need to concentrate on themselves first and foremost before any other thing.

Just like an actor needs full concentration to play a role and give it a good interpretation, the same thing can be applicable to couples. When an actor loses concentration, it can destabilize the role he or she is playing.

Couples should also pray together and put God first in all things. That way, they’d be able bond and become better every day.”

His lovely wife also added to it saying:

“If you are about to get married, you must first of all be sure of yourself: do you like him or her and vice versa?  Quite frankly, it doesn’t have to be love at first sight so we shouldn’t get things wrong.

One can develop your love in marriage. The basic qualities that you admire in your partner should be more important. One must have a very strong likeness for the person because people often delude themselves by saying it was love at first sight.

Sometimes, it’s not. Having a strong likeness for your partner is key and when you get into marriage, both of you will discover many things that will make you and your partner inseparable as you go along.

In marriage, couples should be determined; whatever comes their way, they must be able to make it work. On both sides, they must be able to handle pressure; from family members, in-laws and even challenges in the workplace. Making a success of their marriage should be their focus.”

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