Dear MIMsters: Did I overreact after my husband told me this?
Did I overreact? Please read my story and tell me how you would have reacted. My mother-in-law helped me to secure a contract job which pays N30k monthly. My sister-in-law works at the same place and is also paid same amount monthly.
Recently, for some reasons, my SIL’s salary has been stopped. Surprisingly, my hubby called me aside to tell me that his parent said I should give my SIL 10k out of my own salary monthly.
Angrily, I gave my hubby my ATM card and said I will not and cannot give her. I think it is wrong for them to make it mandatory to give a certain amount of my salary to my SIL just because they helped me secure the job. I told him that I am no longer interested in the job.
Secondly, the amount of money I am paid isn’t even enough for me to take care of myself and my child. Please tell me, did I over react? Kindly help me to pray to God to enable me get a good job. I am a graduate. If I had my own job I got by myself, will they be able to come and tell me this? I will be reading your comments.
My dear you didn’t overreact. What the hell is wrong with nigerian parents /inlaws? How much is 30k that they want you to take 10 out of it? And even making it mandatory because they got the job for you. Please stand your ground. If they insist then resign and start searching for a job yourself.
Giving her something at the end of the month is a personal intention for you to decide, it shouldn’t be a mandatory exercise… What if you are the one that is been stopped? Will they have tell her to do same thing. God will provide another job for you
dats rubbish.y should you be paying her from ur salary…and so what if they helped u wt the job
Hell No!!! What bastard rubbish talk is that? They have no right to “make” u give any person ur money CIA they helped u get a menial slave job. Can 30k transport n feed you let alone pay numerous never-ending bills , let alone when the money is reduced effectively to 20k? Rubbish. As for ur husband, let me just say he’s a loving, supportive man(Not)! Oshisko.
Give wetin? They have no shame at all o.how much is 30k that one wud be sharing again?..take ur stand,dnt give dem o..Once u start that trend,it wont stop,even afta u gt a gud job all by ursf,dy wud still come again because it was successful choping u the first time. Your hubby should join you too. Dnt share any money.it is yours alone. Even if they got it for u,u work to earn dt money. In laws for that matter.nawa o
i only want to ask a question, is their son not working? why should it be you that will give her part of your salary. dem no try at all. thats how my sister in law told me they were expecting me to send money monthly to their mother . she has nine childdren . i am older than the last one. as at the time am talking about, i was the one paying rent, my son’s fees , feeding the family.
They are simply hungry set of people.
Father Lord I thank you for giving me wonderful Inlaws. My dear you dint over react o. Dats total garbage. Always stand your ground wenever intimidation comes.