Dear MIMsters: Will Giving in to my Husband’s Obnoxious Demand Put an End to Our Fights

I have been married for 13 years and we have been Christians all through. My issue is that my husband is always picking fights over very trivial matters…pet peeves mostly.

I never deny my mistakes and work really hard to change but occasionally they resurface. The issues we quarrel about are about things like planning myself better, be a better time keeper, etc. I have never been insolent or rude in anyway. I never ever talk back and I always apologise when my errors are pointed out.

The past few days haven’t been good for us. He raised some concerns and I respectfully told him he had judged me harshly because if I looked back he would realise that they weren’t really true. He said that I don’t contribute to the betterment of the family (and not financially).

We finished the discussion by him requesting me to be sensitive. I said I would. That same night he said since I didn’t hold him or reach out to him physically after the discussion, he had decided to focus on his own happiness and his hearts desire and right then was anal sex. I refused and we had normal sex.

I honestly feel like my love is growing cold because he expects perfection and I am tired of the fights.
He has said tomorrow, I should take the kids alone to church because he won’t accompany us. Will giving in to his demand for anal sex help the situation?