Dear MIMsters: Will Giving in to my Husband’s Obnoxious Demand Put an End to Our Fights
I have been married for 13 years and we have been Christians all through. My issue is that my husband is always picking fights over very trivial matters…pet peeves mostly.
I never deny my mistakes and work really hard to change but occasionally they resurface. The issues we quarrel about are about things like planning myself better, be a better time keeper, etc. I have never been insolent or rude in anyway. I never ever talk back and I always apologise when my errors are pointed out.
The past few days haven’t been good for us. He raised some concerns and I respectfully told him he had judged me harshly because if I looked back he would realise that they weren’t really true. He said that I don’t contribute to the betterment of the family (and not financially).
We finished the discussion by him requesting me to be sensitive. I said I would. That same night he said since I didn’t hold him or reach out to him physically after the discussion, he had decided to focus on his own happiness and his hearts desire and right then was anal sex. I refused and we had normal sex.
I honestly feel like my love is growing cold because he expects perfection and I am tired of the fights.
He has said tomorrow, I should take the kids alone to church because he won’t accompany us. Will giving in to his demand for anal sex help the situation?
Giving in won’t help anything. He just looking for excuses to get in there. I thought he is a good Christian? What happened to the normal way of copulation? Why do women always feel the need to satisfy their husbands wishes even to their own detriment? Women need to wake up and stop allowing these men black mail them.
No it won’t ooo,hope he isn’t gay,this is the first question you would have asked him.when you start having loosed anus someone who is already complaining of irrelevant things will sure complain bitterly about that by then it will be too late because such situation is irreversible.maintain your stand and be at peace with yourself,
Anal sex is a no-no please don’t start what you can’t finish. Why would your husband be demanding for anal sex suddenly… Please be watchful… Also note that health wise anal sex is detrimental to health… Don’t engage in it… All best
I guess he has aleays wanted/preferred the anal but kept that away from you till now which he has successfully brought down your self esteem so you can give in to him.
All the frequent quarell and talks of you being insensitive and not taking up the family responsibilities is to kill your self esteem.
When the mind gives an itch about a certain thing one is going throuhg, its always best its been lookid into.
All the best sis
This is insane, don’t put your life on the line because of a man.
dnt try itu wd regret it pursue ur own happiness
Sex should be giving in love to each other. It is not to manipulate another in other to have one’s way. Whatever sexual activity you and your spouse engage in should bring satisfaction to you both. My dear, don’t do anything you are not comfortable with. Giving in to him against your wish will never solve the problem rather you will be bitter with yourself for it and he will always use that as an avenue to have his way.
You need to have a heart to heart talk with him on this matter and let him know your stand .