Dear MIMsters: Will I Be Doing the Right Thing Breaking up My Five Year Relationship
I am a 24-year-old graduate of Industrial Mathematics. I am single and employed. I’ve been my boyfriend for the past past five years. I met him when we were in school. He was a year ahead of me but we graduated at the same time because his course was a five year one and mine was four.
I love him and I know he loves me too. However, the problem is ever since we graduated and finished youth service till now, he has changed. What I mean by he has changed is that he now demands for sex and foreplay which we had both initially agreed not to indulge in until we get married.
He does not even try to show concern for any of my needs maybe because he thinks I’ve been working for the past one year. He has not added any material or financial value to me. Now, he has this habit of hitting me any time we have a quarrel but he will always beg me and promise never to do it again.
Two days ago, I went to his house and we had an argument and he he hit me again. I was so lucky that I didn’t get badly hurt after hitting my head on the tiled wall. And now, he is begging again and swearing that it won’t ever repeat itself.
As for me, I think I am tired and done with this relationship. Throughout my childhood, I have never seen my dad hit my mum when they had quarrels. I Don’t think I can continue with this relationship any more. Also, he does not trust me one bit. He always suspects me every now and then and claims he’s doing that because he loves me. I am not comfortable with this because I think he is over doing it and too much of every thing is bad.
Please break up with him. You are still very young don’t tie yourself with this kind of person.
My dear, run as fast as your legs can carry you. If he hits you every time there’s a quarrel, I bet he’s going to be an abusive husband. These are red flags you should pay attention to. It’s now or never.
You had better carry your legs and run far away from him.He has not married you, and he is hitting you already!This one will kill you for sure, just a few years(if not months ) into the marriage.You don’t owe him any thing.No sentiments involved here o!The handwriting is already written on the wall or as they say the signs are very clear; he is an abuser.It appears he cannot handle an independent successful woman. He will make it his life’s goal to damage her emotionally and every other possible way he can.without mincing words i say it again:Run!Run!!Rrruuunnnnn!!!!!
he will kill u…pls end the relationship now
Someone is heating you as a boyfriend and you haven’t reported him to the authorities?