Signs that Your Man is a Momma’s Boy

Mark Wealth

Continued from Part 1

In the words of Amanda Chatel, “in the simplest definition, a man child is an immature adult who just refuses to grow up.”. She would know because her husband is a man-child or momma’s boy if you like. She regrets the decision. I believe anyone would. If you don’t want to be caught in a knot with a man child where you’ll be wallowing in regret, get familiar with these signs that will help you spot one from a mile away.

Conflict & Compromise

These are words that don’t exist in his vocabulary. When there’s a conflict, his mind enters the “fight or flight” menu and guess what option he chooses? That’s right; he chooses “flight”, pouts his lips like you just smacked him, makes a comment along the lines of, “you always nag about one thing or the other” and off he goes: either to play some video game or hang out with the “boys” again.

Of course, this implies that he will find it near impossible to make a compromise. He’s quick realise his mistake when you give him the silent treatment. He apologises in such an innocent endearing way that you quickly forgive him. Someone who cannot talk things out maturely is, well, immature and shouldn’t be in an adult relationship.

Withdrawals With No Deposits

He doesn’t put in much but he’s always taking from you. I’m talking about the relationship in all its dimensions. Emotionally and financially, he leans on you and doesn’t provide much support. He knows how to get you to do stuff for him with praises and subtle, persistent persuasion. But when it’s time for him to do something for him, he makes you pay for it somehow. Either by giving him financial resources or your car or you have to practically beg for it. He’s just being lazy and irresponsible knowing that you may go and do it yourself or get someone else to do it.

It’s Always Fun Time

This is one of the good things about the man child. He’s always ready for fun. It could be with friends, his or yours, it doesn’t matter. He could bring up a thousand fun ideas in no time and can get the ball rolling if some people are feeling too reserved or conservative. He’s good at parties; the type that would go and dance with your grand-mother and make her laugh so much, you worry she might get a heart attack. You might want to think twice about taking him to your office dinner party because he may not be able to bridle himself. Saying the wrong jokes at such formal parties could land you in some serious trouble like, “how could he say something like that in front of the clients?!!”

Commitments? Aw Come on!!

Why do you want to go and spoil the fun with all this talk about commitments and permanence? This guy knows that commitments mean seriousness and responsibilities and compromises. That’s like asking a fish to live on a tree. He would avoid such conversations like it’s the plague. Does that mean there are no married men-child (or is it man-children)? Of course there are and if your spouse fits this description, I’m sure you will agree with me that it was possible only because you and/or his family and friends put so much pressure on him to settle down. And you guys probably had to do most of the work and bring most of the resources. He probably showed his stuff when it came to dancing and eating at the reception.

Can you relate with these character traits? Do they sound like your friend, husband or brother? Well you don’t need to wonder how someone could be so unserious with life. It’s a rare case of the man-child. You can put him in an art exhibition and get people to come watch him manifest for a fee. You might make some good cash. Have fun. At least you know there’ll never be a shortage of that.