Dear MIMsters: My Husband’s Lifestyle is Tearing Me Apart

I am here to share my story because I cannot take it or hold it anymore. I can no longer bear my husband’s lifestyle.

I met a guy in my final year at the University. Along the line, I got pregnant. Despite the fact I wasn’t ready for a commitment, he told me to keep it and asked me to get married to him. He told me he loves me.

I decided to play along since I also had feelings for him. We fixed a date for the introduction and got married. Doing this period, I had a friend in school who came to visit with me when I was in the early stage of my pregnancy. She couldn’t leave that day and decided to spend the night.

You won’t believe that my husband woke up at midnight, went to her to ask her for sex. He thought I was actually sleeping, not knowing I was seeing and hearing all he was doing.

My friend asked him why he was doing that and turned him down. She told him that she wasn’t interested and can’t do that to me. I was so hurt that I couldn’t hold it. I cried all day. I would have left him if not for this pregnancy.

He apologized by prostrating in front of me, holding my feet to let go. Since that day, my life has been so boring because I decided never to invite friends anymore. He apologise and told me such stuff will never happen again.

But I noticed that I became the laughing stock of everyone in my vicinity. Why? Because my husband has slept with almost all the women on the street and at the church. I was no longer that free anymore with anyone. I fought some and I decided to let go of some. Somewhere, he lost his job.

We had a son and he couldn’t take care of him. My mom decided to take our son.

Three years after, I gave birth to another girl. I got a shop and started a business to keep myself busy and to be able to help my family.

My husband became a chronic cheat who passwords his phones. He takes his phones to the toilet and sleeps with it. This irritates me and makes me feel so insecure with him. With this, I knew there’s always something he’s hiding from me.

This man has no respect for the marriage or for anything. Will receive calls from different women even at 2 a.m. When I confront the women, sometimes, they tell me he never told them he is married or tells them I’m just a baby mama and not his wife or a harlot. He always promises never to do this again but it’s all a lie.

To give him a reality check, I hired a fake a lawyer to file for a fake divorce. Since the lawyer called him, he has been keeping away. He called all our family members to report me. I told him that the papers are at home waiting for him to sign them but he has refused to come home. He keeps saying that we should settle this that he won’t sign it.

Why doesn’t he want to sign it? I can no longer put up with his lifestyle anymore.