Dear MIMsters: I’m So Mad at My Husband I’m Thinking of Doing Something Very Bad
Most times I ask myself did I do anything wrong in getting married to the man I love. Did I do something very bad marrying him?
My husband has been into single ladies for some months now.
He hardly calls me not even once in a day when he travels but can spend hours on call with one of his lovers.
Recently it’s been one of his Facebook friends. Even though he told her he’s married, the chats won’t stop coming in. My husband would borrow money from me to go meet up with her with the excuse of of buying fuel for his car or going to school; He’s doing his a Masters program.
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Few weeks ago, he travelled to Lagos for a job interview. The whole trip was meant to be for 2 days but he ended up spending up to 9 days. When I call to ask what’s up, he gets angry and tells me that I’m disturbing his life I should allow him focus on what he went there for.
He came back and I noticed the rate of his calls had increased, the Whatsapp and Facebook chats doubled. He has a lock on his phone and hides his phone at night before coming to bed.
This morning, I overheard him talking to a girl on the phone, telling her he would be coming over to Lagos next week and hope to see her. He told her that she shouldn’t give him excuses of her parents seizing her phone this time around unlike the last time.
I got angry and snatched the phone only to see the number saved as an HR to a company. Before the phone locked as I don’t know his password, I went through his Whatsapp messages and saw the girl’s identity.
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My question is what do I do because I can’t bear it anymore. Since he had issues at work, I’ve struggled to put food on the table everyday without complains because I know it won’t last for so long but the person I’m doing this for prefers other ladies and his friends to me his wife.
I don’t know anything going on in his life anymore. He doesn’t talk to me on anything apart from pray me. I have an interview and I’m travelling tomorrow. I’m just so confused. I know I’ve not done anything wrong to him and have never cheated on him but this time the only thing I think about now is how to be wicked to him, start meeting single guys the same way he does and try to be happy outside my matrimonial home.
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Please I need your advice. Advanced married people should advice me on this cause I’m losing it. I cry almost everyday, every minute of the day I’m praying to God for a change but it keeps getting worse. Help me please!
First of all stop providing for him. He should use the energy he uses to chase women to provide for himself or the women should provide for him simple. If you can’t cope anymore, then separate from him please and don’t loose yourself because of him.
if u can’t cope divorce him
They r everywhere, useless men I
my dear, you don’t have to kill yourself because of a man before you develop BP. remove your mind from him, stop going through his phone for your own health, i have been in your shoes, i have the experience, always pray for him, God will answer you.
Don’t wound yourself because of one man oh, kindly leave if the heat is unbearable for you.
My sister same thing is happening to me now, am planning on walking away from the marriage, mine is even worse, he cheat and also rob it on my face, if you can’t bear it again please walk away.