Dear MIMsters: After Been With All These Women, I Am Fed Up With My Life
I am fed up with my love right now.
Back then in my University days, I dated this girl, Bukky whom I really loved and she loved me too. We love each other so much to the extent that she would jump through their living room window around 1:00am just to be with me.
She got pregnant when I was in 200 level and she was in Nursing school at that time. We both agreed to abort it.
Before we met, she had a careless parent who didn’t take care of her and her siblings, so I became her breadwinner, registered her to learn Nursing as I couldn’t afford to give her more as I was also being feed by my single mom who is now late.
A few months after the abortion, she got confused about me. There was also this man who wanted her and saw me as an obstacle. The man succeeded in turning her against me. We broke up and it all ended.
But due to the love we both had for each other, we secretly met and sometimes had sex. After sometime, it stopped. I got a new girl and she also had a new man but the jealousy between us was still there. I promised myself never to abort any pregnancy in my life again.
The new girl suddenly got pregnant after 8 months of dating and she ran off. I was not responsible for her pregnancy.
I got in contact with Bukky again and told her every bit of what happened. She hugged, pet me and we both had sex again. The love was still there. I asked her to come back but she refused because of this man she’s still with. She even told me that she won’t be seeing me again.
I became lonely with a female friend. It took her day to force the words out of my mouth to know what got me so down. Our friendship became a thing of me resuming at her house everyday at 8:00 a.m and would close at 11:00 p.m as there was ASUU STRIKE then.
One day, she asked if I was man enough to touch her boobs. I smiled and proved to be. Soon, we were dating, but I couldn’t figure if I loved her. She graduated before me and would come to spend days with me at school.
Three 3 weeks later, she called from home to say she was pregnant. That same week, I met my first love. She was also pregnant and I also told her my situation too. I asked who owns hers, she bursted into tears and left.
I accepted the 3 weeks pregnancy and went to her parents with my mum. We had a wedding and went back to school for my finals.
8 months later, my ex, Bukky called to tell me that she had a baby girl. A few months later, my wife delivered a set of twin boys.
I was on campus one day, I saw this lady I liked and I walked up to her but I was turned down. After much persuasion she agreed.
I graduated, went home but I only wanted to see my kids. I became jobless and I went back to meet the girl I newly met. I loved her for real and helped her with her school work.
I would cooking as she doesn’t know how to cook but I taught her how to cook, helped her write her assignments, pet her, did her projects, gave her practise on how to defend her project topic and helped her to meet some of her lecturers for assistance on her exams. She got spoilt.
With all these, she started misbehaving, receiving calls from males while we are in bed together at night, she thinking I’m asleep. I warned her times without number. She later turned it to a chat thing. I got pissed, couldn’t take it anymore and I reacted by slapping her.
Now she is serving (NYSC) at KWARA. We met in Lagos yesterday. I slapped her again because she continued to do the same thing. I don’t like touching her because I always regret it afterwards, so we ended it all last night.
She is 22 while I am 30. My kids are 4 years old now and their mum is 33. I am only hustling, working as a furniture man and don’t have a job.
I AM FED UP with my life and I don’t understand anymore as I no longer have any feelings for my wife. I need help.
You need self control to resist women. You’ve got yourself into the habit of jumping into bed with any woman. Only you can solve your problem by learning to love your wife again, staying at home with your kids and dumping all other ex girlfriends if you want Gods blessings on your marriage.
You are the architect of your problems. You are just 30, there’s still hope don’t be fed up yet.
Focus on ur wife.and try to love her
There’s no point feeling like this, just talk to your inner self and stay focused.
Revitalise it with vigor. You are too young to start complaining or you would end up being a polygamist.
Hmmmmm. Why are some parents like that? Because my parents do not want such happenings, they told me the tribe they will accept when I was very young at the age of 15 so growing up, I made sure not to go against that. Ur mum may have a change of mind but I don’t see that happening and that will cause a big problem if u marry her.