Dear MIMsters: Should I Just Leave Him or Confront Him and Weigh My Options?
My question now is: should I leave him and move on or confront him and weigh my options?
I’m 20 years old and planning to get married soon. I met this guy in 2014 and we became friends. One thing led to another and we started having feelings for each other but then he had a girlfriend.
Later, he told me they were no longer in a relationship and he told me he loved me. We became very close and intimate.
I slept over at his place sometimes and he made me feel good, honestly.
Then I noticed he’s constantly on his fone.
Last week, I found out he’s still dating his ex-girlfriend and I indirectly tried to let him know I know. He practically lied to my face.
Before leaving his place, I became moody and made sure to let him know that he had hurt me. He kept asking what the problem was but I just didn’t know how to confront him without crying.
The thing is, he has not officially asked me out. When I asked him to define our relationship, he just said let’s see how things unfold but has a way of bringing up baby names during our conversation. We are not on talking terms now because I keep ignoring his texts messages and calls.
My question now is: should I leave him and move on or confront him and weigh my options?
my dear komot ur mind for him matter someone DAT is telling u DAT let’s see aw things work out hmmmn I pity u u are just an option to him incase his gf fuck up he only loves his ex move on God will provide ur own man
My dear, obviously you are still young and naive. Why not leave marriage matter and focus on building yourself.. You are still very young and have lots of years ahead. Even if you confront him,he will still lie as he has been lying all along( there is no EX).Even if he admits, already he has established the foundation based on lies. He is smarter than you are and is using ya inexperienced head. That relationship wl lead nowhere. As you grow in life and build yourself,you will see better decent guys. Dont rush so you won’t come back here with regrets. Beware of time wasters and BE WISE!!!
You better move on. If you confront him, he will tell you more lies.
You are too young for this kind of relationship. Sex and marriage should not be you focus now. You need to focus on your studies and build up your career. When you get older you will realize that there is no man worth sacrificing your career for, education will empower you to be successful. Marriage is not success. Leave men alone for now and j wonder how a small girl like you can be sleeping over at a guys house. Pls stop being cheap. This guy didn’t ask you out and he hasn’t shown any sign of commitment. SEX IS NOT LOVE. A man will tell you all the sweetest things to get you to sleep with him. Pls stop this relationship immediately.
Move on