Dear MIMsters: After Enduring an Abusive Marriage With My Ex-Husband, My Current Husband Is Now Bearing The Brunt
I was previously married and in an abusive relationship for 7 years. It was 7 years of emotional, and financially abuse. My ex-husband put me down, called me names, nothing I did was good enough.
The last 3 years of our marriage, he refused to work. I was the bread winner, while he sat at home looking after the kids. He didn’t work, but still expected me to clean and do house chores. I have three children by him, and that’s why I stayed that long.
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One day I finally summoned the courage and broke free with my children. A friend of mine
introduced me to a new man some time later. We courted for a while and later got married. He is a good guy from a good family. He loves my children like they are his own, he takes very good care of us.
My problem is I have trust issues. I was deeply hurt from my previous marriage. I know it’s not my husband’s fault, but I can’t seem to fully trust him. I’m always asking him questions
and looking through his phone. I know if I don’t stop he will leave me, and I
would have pushed away the only good guy God ever sent me.
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How do I let go of my trust issues and believe in him the way he believes in me? I’d appreciate any suggestions.
dont seem to Av any good suggestion…let me pass
Hmmmmmm. My last relationship ended because he had trust issues. Hard as I tried to help him, nothing positive came out of it. I think you need to talk to a therapist. It took 7 years of damage, it will take time to fix. Please don’t push a good man away.