Dear MIMsters: I Have Decided Never to Step a Foot Into My Husband’s Room Again

Hubby has been asking me to move to my room, but I’ve been refusing until his older brother came visiting. He seized the opportunity to tell me to leave his room so he can share the room with his brother.

Even though I was upset and tried to make him understand that it not proper for another person to share the same we share as a couple but he didn’t get it. He has a different understanding from mine. So, I started sleeping in my room but did not move my things.

I finally moved my things after my baby was born.

When this same brother-in-law came visiting again, he refused to sleep in hubby’s room and chose the guest room for reasons best known to him. However, he has another older brother who prefers sleeping in hubby’s room.

I love his brothers so much and I don’t want to have any problems with them, but I don’t feel good about it. I feel alienated and cannot enter the room when his brothers are they. I always have to wait for hubby to come out if I have something to discuss with him.

Even though I moved to my room, we have sex in his room anytime we want to.

However, this is strange for me because where I come from, I have never seen a visitor sleep on another couple’s bed. My hubby said this is normal or common where he comes from and they are educated.

I just want your opinion on this. Am I taking it too far? If I’m not taking it too far, how best should I handle this? I have decided never to step foot into that room again.