Dear MIMsters: Why I Feel Very Helpless In My Marriage
I feel very helpless in my marriage and this is why.
I went to the petrol filling station to buy fuel this evening and guess what I saw? My husband’s car was right in front of mine and he was riding with a woman seated on the passenger’s seat.
When he got out of the car, he was shocked to see me. He asked me if it has reached the extent where I trail him around. The truth is, at first, I didn’t even know that there was a girl seated in the car. I was swearing that I didn’t follow him that I only came to buy fuel when I smelt a rat and sighted her.
I asked who she was and he said that she’s just a girl he is helping with a ride. That was it and we agreed to leave the filling station together. But before I knew it, he drove off. I called him to ask why he didn’t wait for me and he said that he cannot wait on the road for me and that I should come meet him at a garden.
When I got there, I couldn’t find her again. I asked him where she was and he said that he’d dropped her off somewhere on the road. Then he started, saying, “what is it sef, am I the only married man in Abuja that my wife will be following me round the town?”
I got so pissed because I have been asking him for money to buy cream and make my hair but he has refused to give me. I don’t have any source of income since I was sacked from my previous job. I have been learning how to become a fashion designer since then.
What he does is drop N1k everyday and when I complain that the money is not enough, he will often say that do I expect him to drop N10k? How do I handle this as my head is so full of all his rubbish and insults he’s been dumping on me?