Dear MIMsters: I Love My Home But My Wife Has Become Disrespectful and Emotionally Abusive

I am getting confused. Please read my post carefully. I love my home but my wife has become disrespectful and emotionally abusive.

Since I got married four months ago, I have being the one doing most of the domestic chores at home after work during the week, in the mornings and on Saturdays. I don’t do it maliciously, my driving force is the love for my new home.

My wife has on account of these things I do become disrespectful and emotionally abusive. I can’t even express myself whenever something goes wrong without her raining abuses on me or saying harsh and disrespectful words to me.

Most mornings, I make my breakfast myself before going to work while she is still in bed. On Saturday, I woke up early as usual, made some breakfast and started doing a few chores until 9.00am. I served the food, woke her up and we ate. I slept off a few minutes later.

When I woke up, I discovered the dishes that we used for breakfast about 4 hours ago were left uncleared. I stepped out to get some things we need and was just like that. While all these was on, she was just watching movie. I didn’t say anything. I simply picked up 3 shirts and boxers to go wash outside. Then she stepped out to where I was to ask me why I’m washing since we will be going out soon.

I told her, all my clothes are dirty and I had to wash this since she didn’t make any effort to help while I was sleeping. She picked offence and said she is not my slave. That I am only good for domestic activities and nothing else. She is also in the habit of abusing me to my face that she footed some part of our wedding expenses.

The truth is despite the fact that I am not yet financially stable, I provide for the basics for my family. I want you to please share your honest advice with me as I am so depressed now.