Dear MIMsters: See Where My Husband’s Unfaithfulness Has Brought Me To
I wrote about my husband’s unfaithfulness by secretly talking to different girls and deleting their convo a few weeks ago. Thank you mums for your advice.
Well, things haven’t been the same. I did keep to myself until he was tired, (I however continued to care for him as I’ve always done). I guess he could no longer hold it, sso he burst, said I was deep hearted, that it wasn’t as if I caught him on top of another woman. I didn’t say a word. The next day, he asked to talk but I wasn’t interested in hearing his lies again. He had virtually no point and I made him know he’s not wise, he’s not even an inch smart.
During the period that we weren’t, our wedding anniversary came and went past, yet, no one said “happy anything” to each other. I’ve (always) been friends with my children, they make me laugh so heartily. He tries to join in on our good times.
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I pay no attention to his schedule, I don’t feel like engaging in unnecessary gist. This isn’t me trying to punish him, it’s just how much detached I feel. I sometimes fantasise about happily ever after, I love love, I love to see people stay happily married. I take my happiness very seriously too.
A few days ago, I woke up to him caressing me, I wasn’t interested and so told him to stop. Soft touches don’t fix matters. He wants to sweep it under the carpet but I’m not having it. He stylishly asked that we spend some time together today, and I had no response.
Sometimes, I feel like a fool for being transparent and kind, only to find out that the gesture is not reciprocated by my significant other. I know it’s been a long read but I just want to bare my heart. I find it difficult to shed a drop of tear on this matter, I can’t say why. He changes my phone when need be, and he’s just talked about it. I will tell him, I’ll help myself this time. I don’t feel special to him.
Perhaps couples counseling may help you decide and articulate what you desire now.
You are hurt.
Your husband is nervous.
Maybe if you undergo counselling, things may be properly resolved.