Writer, Lola Shoneyin Narrates How A Deputy Vice Chancellor Who Was Her Father’s Friend Sexually Assaulted Her And How Her Father Reacted
Nigerian writer, Lola Shoneyin has weighed in on the trending sex for grades scandal by recalling an incident that happened to her years ago. The popular Nigerian writer and poet said she was sexually assaulted by a Deputy Vice Chancellor who also happens to be her father’s friend.
She said the randy old man grabbed her breasts and she froze. When she told her dad, she said he was furious and confronted him.
Read her narration:
A DVC (also my dad’s friend) lunged at my breasts in his office. I froze from shock before flinging off his hand. For months, I felt terrible shame. Played the scene over in my mind to see what I could’ve done to invite such a violation. Nothing. I told my dad and he was furious!
My dad slapped his chest and said, ‘Omo re mi!’ (my own child in Remo). He felt so betrayed. To be honest, I told my parents because I felt a stomach-turning combination of shame and fear. I believed the man was capable of turning up at my door.
It was very hard. And very embarrassing. There are loads of experiences that I didn’t share/ haven’t shared with them though. How many stories will I recount?
Listen, a big part of my shame was that I froze from shock for about 3 seconds. I therefore had to live with the lingering sensation of this man’s palm on my breast for weeks. I felt so dirty. I wish I’d slapped him. I wish I’d screamed. But I didn’t. I was terrified.
See Lola’s original Twitter post below:
My dad slapped his chest and said, ‘Omo re mi!’ (my own child in Remo). He felt so betrayed.
To be honest, I told my parents because I felt a stomach-turning combination of shame and fear. I believed the man was capable of turning up at my door. https://t.co/NbbOLFqLkj
— Lọlá Shónẹ́yìn (@lolashoneyin) October 7, 2019