‘You Were So Good To Outsiders But Your Own…’ -Heartbreaking Biography Of Deceased Nigerian Father By His Children Goes Viral
Family of a deceased man didn’t mince words in expressing their disapproval of him in his funeral brochure as he was recently buried in Ohafia, Abia state.
His bereaved family made it clear that their father, Chief Gabriel Osonwa Kalu, alias Ete Ossy who passed away at the age of 66, wasn’t an exemplary father.
His children revealed that they regretted having him as their father while growing up, but are there at his funeral to perform the necessary rites of burial.
The man’s children said that though no one is perfect, their father left them no legacy. They slammed the deceased for being good to outsiders while neglecting his home.
An excerpt from the tribute written in honor of the deceased man read:
“It is true nobody is truly perfect, but Ete Ossy, you left us with no single legacy as your children. Indeed you were so good to outsiders but your own home was a total shamble. As a growing child, I regretted having you as a father, but today, look at me, standing to lay you down to rest.”
Social media reactions
Isaac Inwang wrote: “If it will please God to make me die at old age, may my children not describe me the way this man’s children described him. “May my children celebrate my fatherhood both in my lifetime and upon my death.”
Charles Ndubuisi said: “I had the most wonderful father anyone could have wished for but even if reverse was the case I would never have dragged his name and memory in the mud like this.”
Awang Patrick commented: “I don’t blame them at all… I know the pains of having an irresponsible father who is a beast at home but an angel to outsiders… I can totally relate to this… Those children no get joy sha but the man wherever he is will be on a serious hold up to heaven.”
Adebayo Bello added: “This is a message to all big men children who refused to hustle but are putting their mind on inheritance. This is how your father will disappoint many of you.”
Cynthia Michael Okpamen said: “Most father’s are like this. Very good to outsiders but bad at home. If u fail ur children as a father then don’t expect their love even in death. Parents play ur role well and see if ur kids can stay a day without hearing from u. That u are lucky to have a good dad doesn’t mean another was. The child spoke his or her bottled pain. RIP SIR.”
Nduka Agunyai: ‘If family and friends do this, a lot will change for the better. People actually look down on their family and act as King and saviour to strangers.’
Nkenna wrote: “Parents, Do better while you’re alive. This generation is more outspoken, less repressed, we will respect elders, who respect themselves. Even the Bible says, parents do not anger they children; stop quoting only the honor thy father part.”
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Betty: “Sounds like what I will write for my father. Nobody understands.. outsiders thinks he is the bestest thing since slice bread.
NellyTee: “My mother is on that table. A very useless woman who wants praises from outsiders more than anything. She is running around fixing other families’ problems while her family is in turmoil.”
Anonymous: “This is the kind of call out deadbeat parents deserve, some just give birth and expect you to figure life out right from childhood. Why give birth to them if you can’t take care of them? And please they should not give me that their father didn’t take care of them either talk.
If your father gave birth to 10 and couldn’t train them, you give birth to 2 that you can train and that will love you, instead of 6 that you can’t train that’ll hate you, period!”
Alli Merry: Damn!!! No room for sugarcoating anymore, this is really sad, the man must have really hurt the children so much, and it’s a big lesson to all parents.”
Baba Dee: “Aswear! All those parents that are more conscious of how outsiders see them than how their wives and children feel should take note. A few days ago, someone said wives cheated on and maltreated will soon start spitting on their husband’s grave people including me had mixed feelings.
If a grown up child feels this way, how do you think his mother felt? This kind of child can do it, and I wouldn’t blame him. To every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction. Leave good legacy with your family not outsiders.”