‘As The First Son, You Shouldn’t Leave Your Late Father’s House For Your Mom’ -Traditionalist Stirs Controversy As He Explains Why
A traditionalist, @Onwa_Nnewi has explained to first sons why they shouldn’t leave their late father’s house for their mom.
The entrepreneur said first sons should not leave their late father’s house and leave their mom to go rent a house in the name of marriage.
He added said that they are the man of the house and they should put everyone where they belong because the house belongs to them according to the Igbo culture.
Onwa_Nnewi tweeted:
“As the first son….your father died…. remaining you and your mother in your own rightful inheritance…..Now you want to get married….Oga that house is yours….marry your wife and live together with your mum and wife…Set the rules…Everyone obey… Don’t be a vegetable.
How can you come here and tell a first son of the family to leave his later father’s house and rent apartment because he’s getting married….he should rent house and leave his father’s house for his mother…… Some of you would come here and be talking nonsense and bullshit.”
Explaining further,
A WOMAN DOES NOT HEAD A FAMILY IN IGBO CULTURE…. When your father die….as the first son of the family you’re automatically backed by culture to become the next head of the family…not your mother…. She’s your mother and her position in the family can NEVER be undermined.
In Igbo culture when a father dies the first son takes the mantle of the family leadership…Women doesn’t head home in Igboland..As a first son your father’s house in the village is your inheritance.
If you live in the village with your parents as the first son….when your father die and you want to get married you don’t go out and rent apartment while there’s an empty house right there….. From the day your father die you have automatically become the head of the family
backed by culture…..You’re free to marry and remain in that house without undermining your mother….She’s still the mother of the house while you’re the new head…… Everything you do she must be consulted… sometimes you guys would disagree to agree….
You can co-exist with her and your new wife in that building……In any family set up everyone has a role to play….set out the roles…. don’t despise your mother because of your wife and don’t despise your wife because of your mother…. Everyone should play his or her role
So that family would be moving on….our Ancestors married many wives and they all lived together in one compound without issues… Daughters of jezebels we have in Igboland today keep telling us that they cannot co-exist with their mother in-law but they can comfortably stay with their own mother whenever she comes for omugwo… Never did I say you should be dictating for your mother or chase her out whoever that does such is an IDIOT… Let everyone play his or her roles. Shikina!!!!”
Reacting:
@Okeke499:
Lies! The house belongs to your mother, you can’t set rules for your mother. Go out and start a new life, even if you have to start small. Don’t set your wife up for drag. Make person no go dey count meat for her pot. Next thing you people will start cooking separately.
@ChukaMichael:
The rule you cannot set when you father is still alive, will be nearly impossible to set afterwards for you Mom and other siblings, you may exude your masculinity when you are around but if you go to work or travel your wife will see shege promax.
@Abiginwa1:
Ezigbote asi.. That house belongs to ur mother.. Its her husband’s house and she has more rights under the law and igbo tradition than the first son.. The house belongs to the first son and his siblings and the first son must settle his siblings before taking full control
@EtuboLion:
I read a few tweets about someone saying that his father’s house belongs to him after he dies and his mom would have to live by his rules to live in that house or she should move out… because “culture”. See, I respect culture a lot, but I don’t fuck with it like that cos of stuff like this.
Bro, there is no way you should raise kids who would say that about their mother even after you leave this world in the name of culture. Bro, I think this is where I would say fuck culture and just stick to basic human decency.
None of my kids, born or unborn would have that audacity to say that to their mother. Are you insane? Because you are a man? Bro, how about you move out and become and proper man. You don’t automatically get nothing because of culture.
If I leave this world, everything goes to your mother unless stated otherwise in the will. You don’t automatically get nothing cos you are a man. You get what you deserve, which starts by the level of respect you show your mother.
You wanna tell the woman I built my little empire with, to live by your rules or leave? In the empire she built? Who birthed you fam? Cos it is definitely not me. You don’t get to own it all because the rest of your siblings are women.
Bro, no way in this world. Culture didn’t build this family. WE did, and by WE, I mean your mother and I. And we both get to say who gets what. Yes, you are a man, you are my son, and I love you, but be careful.
You have no authority over your mom as a man. If we get divorced or she dies before me, we would go from there. I will say who get what, but you don’t automatically get anything. I also inherited nothing, everything came from the struggle. So, I’m sure you can do it too.
This thread is coming from a place of pain, because I come from a place that think women are worthless. That, they don’t get anything or deserve anything good because they are women. The man gets it all no matter how worthless he is.
This right here is where I’m gonna excuse myself from culture. I get it, culture is kinikan kinikan, but no, I don’t want it. Again, if this culture starts to make me question my sanity or human decency, I excuse myself.
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@Kcee: Wow This is not a Nigeria tradition tho Leaving your late father house to your mom isn’t really bad.. Becus she has no where else to go.
@IsahAbdul77:
Then you have to build a House for her because dats her late Husband’s house FFS. People for this Country dey Craze aswear
@SwitCandyy:
My own husbands house ooooo And pikin way I born too, will now start dragginhg the house with me cuz the father is late ekwaaa?? Mweluuuuu okpiri kujia gi na nwunye gi ukwu.”
As the first son….your father died…. remaining you and your mother in your own rightful inheritance…..Now you want to get married….Oga that house is yours….marry your wife and live together with your mum and wife…Set the rules…Everyone obey… Don't be a vegetable.
— Onwa_Nnewi (@Kene_Nnewi) February 17, 2023