Dear MIMster: My husband is a Pastor but see how he treats me
Here’s a brief story of what I experience every day of my life in the hands of my husband who is a Pastor.
My marriage will be 3-years-old this year. The issue is that since the first day of our marriage, my husband has blamed me for everything that goes wrong in our home. He is a pastor while I have no job except care for the needy in the church.
My husband would insult me with words I find difficult to mention to anyone like, “you stupid, foolish girl,” “who do you think you are,” “go and see other women like you do all that you do and even more,” “you are lazy.”
I got pregnant and had no help, then I employed a girl to help me out. He told me to stop her from working because she works too much and gets tired. When he sees me lying down, that day will be dooms day for me. He will say, “you are not the only one that is pregnant.” He can even suggest that I am pretending. He has asked his parents to come and live with us without telling me and when I talk, I will get into trouble with everyone including with his parents. Meanwhile, my own parents or siblings can’t come on a visit as he has shared the 7-bedroom house we live in amongst his people. Even his brother who lives abroad has his own room.
He insults me at every opportuniy he gets, even for his own mistakes. If I keep quiet: trouble, when I talk: trouble, when my brother wanted to open a business for me, also trouble, when his parents don’t eat, it is my fault, when my child who is 14-months-old cries at night, it’s my fault and I will be heavily insulted for it. I am just tired and I can’t talk to anyone.
I have come to understand that he is an abuser or could I be wrong because he is a Pastor? How do I end this?
U r living in bondage. The earlier u do something abt this,the better for u
Girl how do you stay living with a man like that? He is an abuser and using pastor as a guise to be evil. How can you be a slave in your own home? Yes everything he does to you is like a master slave relationship. Leave him please and if you can’t, then allow your brother open that business for you to keep you sane. Don’t allow him sabotage it please. So you can have something doing and a source of livelihood. All the best.
GO BACK HOME TO YOUR PARENTS!! HE IS AN ANIMAL YOU ARE LIVING WITH IN HUMAN FORM.
THE EARLIER YOU DEAL WITH ABUSE, THE BETTER.
JUST GO, DONT EVEN TELL HIM JUST DO IT!
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You’ve been taking his insults for a very long time and stopping him will be tough but things can’t continue this way. You’ve got to challenge him anytime he insults you and warn him that if he can’t treat you like a wife then you will not support him in his ministry because he is not behaving like a pastor. Learn to ignore him too when he is giving out orders, like telling you to get up when you are resting. Pls start the business and if he complains tell him you are leaving.
I am sure he wouldn’t be able to stand the disgrace. I am sure his whole family worship him and nobody dares to challenge him. You be the first. Good luck!
To me your husband need prayer thank God that you said he is a pastor go to ur Bible nd pray for him is not normal something is wrong somewhere plss be patient pray nd fast on behalf of him hmm pastor too na human being just that he has,not over come flesh he is ruling by flesh pls pray ernestly