DEAR MIM: Should I Marry This Man Who Can’t Get It Up?

I’m a single lady in my late twenties. I met this guy close to 6 years ago and played hard to get for 2 years but he remained consistent, so, I finally gave in.

Initially, I was worried because he’s a Muslim while I’m a Christian, and I knew my family will never want to hear of that. Besides, I had just graduated then and he was still an undergraduate with years ahead. However, his persistence and sweet nature made me overlook the seeming flaws and our relationship kicked off.

He told me from the start that he wanted marriage so he could wait for as long as I wanted to have sex. I had no qualms with that at first until last year when I told him I was ready for it. He agreed and we did but I noticed that despite all the romance and all, it took so long for him to have an erection, and even in d process, the ‘thing’ was
still falling.

I thought in my mind that it might be anxiety. So I let it be. We didn’t do it again until this year and things were pretty much the same. The third time we did it, it got even worse; as in nothing at all. I had to ask him what the problem was. Questions like; Was it anxiety? How long has it been going on? He told me it has for a year and I told him I noticed it the first time we made out, so it must be longer than that.

I asked what he has done about it. To my surprise, he said nothing. I hid my shock and asked why and he told me it’s because he feels it’s something that will resolve with time, adding that he doesn’t need any drugs and has not told anyone about it.
I persuaded him to get help and he promised to and later told me he has sought help and is now on medication. However, I’m yet to see any improvement whatsoever; it’s the same as always. I’m confused! What should I do? Please help.