Dear MIM Readers: “I’m married but involved in extra-marital affairs just to support my family”
I am 29-year-old man from the south southern part of Nigeria. I am married with two lovely kids but involved in an extra-marital affair just to provide for my family.
Things are not going well for me at all. I have been trying my best to make ends meet and feed my family by doing all sorts of job since I couldn’t get employment after graduating.
My wife is very obedient, loving and understanding. I’m having extra marital affairs with two different single ladies (who tend to be in love with me) that are helping me financially with the hope that I will get married to them. The two ladies don’t know each other. My wife knows them but is not aware that I’m having extra marital affairs with them cause she trusts me with all her life.
These ladies are not aware that I am a married man cause I still look single and very free to stay outside my marital home without suspicious calls from my wife. Whenever I tell my wife that I’m not coming home, she understands, wishes me well and prays for me.
These young ladies out of their little income extend financial help to me which I use to take care of my family. I don’t want to hold them further from getting married by given them false hope. I have the burden of telling them the truth.
Before they came into my life, I was almost frustrated cause of joblessness but when I started dating them, I started getting little relieve. I feel for them and also afraid to leave them. Though they are not rich, their support gives me a take home for daily bread. For many years, I have been begging God to make a way for me and bless me. I have approached banks and people to sponsor my business but all to no avail. I come from a very poor background where no one amounts to something. Please! Kindly help me out.
Oga there are descent ways to make ends meet without cheating on your spouse.
There’s no justification for cheating, people do all manner of odd jobs to survive. You need to come clean with your wife and the two mistresses.
My dear u are just killing urself if those women knew dt u are married they will kill u pls end dt dirty game God cn help u if u really want him to.
You are a lazy man. There are men who do different kinda jobs to make ends meet without sleeping around. U better stop what you are doing before u hurt your wife and those ladies.
THAT IS FLIMSY EXCUSE
So some men do indulge in the act to make end meet, if your are hardworking you will not need to stoop so low to be collecting money from women, I pity your wife, cos if those women get to know u will regret cos some women can be terrible in this kind of case. May God help you
Must you wait for white collar job to feed your family, find something doing, believing and trusting in God , there will be a turn around
Very flimsy excuse. I hope if the wife does same to help the family he won’t raise his eye brow.
Please desist from it. Its not good cos when you know you are not financially stable you shouldn’t have gotten married. So using other women hard earned money to raise your own family is evil and wicked. Its wrong to man and God. These are innocent ladies who believe they have a future with only to find out you are actually using them. Its painful so pls stop now.
Hmmm oga u are putting ur wife n kids lives at risk.Do u know those ladies or any of them could harm ur family just to get back at u(when they eventually find out)?Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned.Trust is like a glass;easy to break,difficult to mend n d scars always show.You are simply lazy because
You are simply lazy because u are not the only graduate without a white collar job.Other young men are hustling it out in honest ways.Please find a way and discontinue these affairs
You are cheating so stop all these bullshit de re helping u out bla bla bla, I was even tinkin its sugar mummy dat will spend on any foolish man not knowin u re messing around wt young gurls n hv de pride to say de feed u? Aren’t u ashmaed? Whatever happened to praying wt ur wife n kids for God to restore peace in ur home? Financial breakthrough etc and instead u re busy messing around. I don’t pity u at all so go to ur wife n confess ur sins, den two of u shuld seek God’s face n free those ladies by telling dem de truth only then will tins move well for u Else u gonna die a wretched man in hell. Go n start frm smwhere n establish urself n stop giving stupid n flimsy excuse
So for how long wil u keep decieving them and urself?what has happened to pety jobs that u can’t pick one up,must it be a white colar job?d more u continue with them the more ur chances of getting something is slim.
It’s just an excuse poster. The time you are supposed to be looking for a job you are busy spending with little girls. It won’t help you in anyway. And to think that your wife prays for you? Hmmm! What if you caught her cheating? How would you feel? Get a way to come clean with those other two ladies and your wife. Start searching for a job. If you are truthful to yourself God in his infinite mercy would help you.
No b small thing o no justification for ur actions
Mtchew! Oga pls go get urself busy and stop all des
You better let go of them and live well by your labour, what goes around comes around
Ure just heaping curses for you and Ur innocent family. Desist from this lifestyle and look for better ways to make ends meet. The money u get from those women can do u no good except make your situation worse. Stop before it’s too late. Ur job mustn’t be in an office.. driving a keke Nepap to make a honest living will help u far more than what u are doing, be a man.
D game u r playing is too dangerous if u dnt knw I had better quit it now or regret it in d future cos there’s nothing hid under d sun so for d sake of ur family pls go look for something beta to do wit ur life
You went and married a naive young woman, who is exactly like the ones you are deceiving! Hmm, you’ve been in this game of indecent relationships for long, and are now feeling remorse, not repentant. You are quite a mischievous soul you know, it’s only God that can deliver you if you let Him. Sincerely seek God for your numerous life conflicts and He’ll deliver you.
Mtcheeeew
Ur using ur own hands to hinder ur blessings
Confess and repent of your sins. Leave the two women and face your family. Find something meaningful to do.
Pls dnt mak d mistake of sitting any of those ladies down 2 tell dem d truth jst RUN as far as u can away 4rm those ungodly affairs! Go back home n put thins rite wit ur wife,2geda u cry unto God 4 mercy. Den things shud chang 4 beta in ur home.i wish u well
Be a man! And stop all these rubbish joo you are not the only one facing tough times
This is just the words of a lazy man
U are thy reason y u are jobless
Oga you a too lazy to be sincere,many men have seen hell on this earth due to hardship but they never depend on any woman to feed them.Get busy and be a man before you loose your precious wife.
There is no way God will make a way for you with d kind of life you’re living. Even your wife’s prayer for you anytime you stay overnight with your ladies is enough curse for you bcos you are cheating her and she’s innocently reporting you to God. Oga you need to stop deceiving people all in d name of making ends meet and be honest. Even d ladies you’re lieing to will not allow God to bless d work of your hands. Apologise to d ladies and free them. I hope they forgive you. It is only after you have ended those affairs and sincerely ask for God’s mercies that you can see favour from God. Enough said.
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My brother we have millions of unemployed graduates in that Country and very where but we still strive to survive and take up responsibilities as a man, many of us have really passed through hell in order to make it in life but yours is in negative manner because by the time you will loose your precious wife and kids, it will be like African magic to you. try asap and quite those dirty games you are playing and claim the love of your family back before you cry at last, they are the only thing you have now as a man, and a prayer done together with them can actually help.Thank you