Dear MIM: Am I Being Abused By My Husband?
I can’t think straight. My husband curses and threatens to hit me when he is angry and that is almost every day.
I currently cannot hear with my left ear due to his hitting and dragging me by the ear. If I am emotionally down, he never comforts me. When I’m sick, he says it’s pretence, and this makes me crave his care the more and sometimes beg for his attention but get I none. It makes me feel hopeless and like dying.
He never commends nor encourage me, always finding faults but says despite his attitude, I should always know that he cares, loves and understands the pains I pass through in caring for the home. He tells me that I should just accept him the way he is.
He abuses my family, calls meetings on me with his brothers, shouting abusively at me and accuses me of things to the hearing of neighbours. Now, he’s threatening to deal with me when his finances are better. Infact, I’m an emotional wreck. I have my faults but I crave for his affection.
My family has various issues so I’ve been told to sort myself by myself. I have 2 kids whom I sometimes transfer my frustration on (weeps). He keeps telling me I don’t know how to handle a man, so I must suffer for it.
I feel happier when I’m not around him. He is a good man though when he is happy and have good plans for his kids. This just confuses me. Should I run away and beg to feed my kids? I’m a degree holder but have no job.
As I type this, I’m an emotional wreck, he didn’t give me money to buy pad and pap before he left for work because the last money he gave me was used up on drugs for me and the kids, so I am using a rag. By the way, the business he set up for me, I have to make daily refunds, else all hell will be let loose.
Am I being abused?
Ur hubby is a bad belle. He has complex problems and wants to kill ur self esteem completely. Separate from him and get ur life back before you die of depression
You are asking if you are being abused? You are deaf in one ear and asking if it’s abuse? No it is sweet love. If I slap you there now, you will have a brain reset. You better stand up to him before he finishes the last of your self esteem mtschew. You are a degree holder and suffering like this? You can either look for a job or start saving little from the business he opened for you till you have enough to leave his silly ass because trust me, that man is not going to change anytime soon my dear.
You are experiencing all these and still asking if you are being abused? All I can say is: To whom brain is given sense is expected
Please seek physical n spiritual help cos u don’t sound normal. He wants u dead and you are letting him. Please its emotional, physical n mental abuse. Run away n stop letting him use you.
Hmmmmmmm
Of course you are, stand your ground, make him understand you are not a baby, he can’t continue treating u like a rag. Tell him you are not a slave but his wife, do this with respect not by shouting.
hm….are u still in that house
defintely my dear dat is total abuse.leave him and be alive or stay back and be dead and your children will be motherless housegirls to d step mother.even if ur family is not responding to u get up and fight for yourself before he kills you.report to a social group dat deals on marital abuse and they will help out.sorry to say that your husband is insecure and a brute
This is an abuse on your morale and self esteem, please be careful the man may hurt you.
I feel like giving you E-Slap… Leave that marriage before that marriage leave you..
MY DEAR LADY, PLS TALK TO A LAWYER, HE WILL TELL U WHAT ACTION TO TAKE TO AVOID TAKING LAWS INTO YOUR HANDS BUT ALL D SAME U ARENT ACTING MATURE AT ALL, PLS BE CAREFUL
Bull shit, u don’t have a job, u can’t make moin moin , puff puff or something to sell. Lay your hands on something my friend n getting moving. Move now or be dead soon.You know what, ur kids will certainly become house helps by d time he is true. Leave him ,leave his business n see if God will not send help to you. Be strong girl ,pls don’t leave your kids.
Honestly I don’t support what dat animal u call a husband is doing to u but could pls be open and tell us the full story bcus u are hiding something from us. No matter de issues ur own family is going through they will never allow u to die in another man house just bcus they have some issues. There are more to this story which u are not telling us. Pls poster kindly be open and tell us the whole truth.