Dear MIMsters: Did I Make A Mistake By Telling My Husband This Dirty Secret?
I have sinned against God and my husband.
My hubby is presently not in the country – he has been away for a year now and I have been feeling very lonely, although I stay with my parents-in-law.
Meanwhile, since I got married, I’ve never stopped chatting with my ex. So, last week I decided to pay him a visit at his house, although that day wasn’t my first time. Often, we would chat, gist and sometimes go see a movie together.
On that fateful day, while I was at his place one thing led to another and we started kissing and touching. He was just trying to undress me when my phone rang and it was my hubby. I got hold of myself to answer his call only for my hubby to ask me where I was, adding that he was worried about me. He asked if I was okay and I told him I was.
After his call, I realized I wasn’t suppose to be where I was that time and came to my senses. I started crying right in that room in the presence of my ex. I had to leave immediately, and throughout that day, I was filled with guilt – my conscience kept disturbing me.
For days, I cried in my room and asked for God’s forgiveness. Then, I summoned courage to tell my husband what happened. At first, he was really angry but I begged for his forgiveness and he told me he has forgiven me. I promised him never to do such again and I mean it.
To tell the truth, I was expecting him not to forgive me easily but he sent me more than the usual allowance he gives me and has started processing my visa to come and join him.
My question is, did I do the right thing by telling him. Won’t he use it against me someday? Is he only pretending all is well? I’m worried.
It’s not your Borden if uses it against you, what’s important is that you are free from the bondage of that sin, what if that you ex starts blackmailing you with it many years later
The deed has been done already. That’s why it’s not ideal for couples to be living apart. Just pray he has really forgiven and won’t use it against you, cos if he thinks deep down he will realize that he has an honest wife.
I believe he has forgiven u
Free ur mind ad never betray him again
It’s tricky. He seems like a good man though. Even if he does, maybe when you must have pushed him to the wall or something. I tell you he is a good man, some men would have informed the whole world about it and treat you like a plaque. But then the deed has been done, please don’t let it repeat itself again.
Please do go there again n behave well from now onwards.
the most important thing is that God has forgiven you and he says he has forgiven you. just ensure to avoid a repetition.
WHAT ALL OF U ARE SAYING MAKES NO SENSE, SHE IS ASKING AS THOUGH SHE IS GOOD, BUT LET ME TELL U SOMETHING. YOU BROUGHT IT UPON YOURSELF. WHEN ON EARTH WILL LADIES WISE UP? YOU STILL HAVE YOUR EX CONTACT WITH U EVEN AFTER YOUR MARRIAGE, U CALL CHAT AND GIST WITH HIM. WHAT IMPRESSION ARE U GIVING HIM? THAT U STILL LOVE HIM OR U STILL CARE ABOUT HIM OR WHAT? IF U LIKE DONT LEARN. I DO TELL LADIES ONCE YOU ARE NOT DATING HIM AGAIN, DELETE EVERY INFORMATION ABOUT HIM FROM YOUR PHONE, YOUR HEART AND FROM YOUR LIFE. LET HIM UNDERSTAND HE IS NOW IN YOUR PAST PLS AND FORGET THIS EX THING IT DESTROYS MARRIAGE
he seems understanding