Dear Mimster: “I’m losing it already. How do I handle a husband like mine?”
I got married to my husband 6 years ago. I can say categorically that I’ve never been happy in the marriage and I’m losing it.
The second month after our wedding, I caught my hubby cheating on me. I confronted him and he apologised. Some months later, I caught him again, and he threatened to pack all his things from the house. I called his sister who talked to us and he returned his things back to the house, I was already pregnant then.
In less than a year after we got married, I treated STD twice for which he apologised as the cause. I delivered the baby in 2012. After then, a lady called me to tell me I was only keeping his bed warm till she is ready to marry him. I told my husband about it and he said I shouldn’t take her seriously.
In 2015, I had two miscarriages at the early stages as a result of infection. I told him about it, and we were placed on treatment. Right there in my presence, my hubby sent the prescription of the drugs to a lady and called her to get the drugs immediately.
We’ve not been living together, and any time I raise the issue of living together with him, he’d tell me to stay in Ibadan where he put me and the kid. Mid 2015, one of his girlfriends called me that she was pregnant for my hubby. I didn’t even get angry at her, I told her to keep it that automatically she has become his wife. She begged me not to be angry with her that she didn’t mean to ruin my home. I asked my hubby about it but he denied. The lady stopped calling me after a while.
Months later, her friend called me that she has put to bed that I should come and fight her there, but I declined. My hubby denied totally when I asked him again. My hubby hardly comes home again, he comes like once in two months, (Lagos to Ibadan).
I got pregnant and delivered through CS, my brother paid the hospital bills. (I’m a graduate but not yet employed). Hubby only came home to do the naming and left two days after. I’ve been the only one looking after myself and the two kids as he has refused to come home.
I was frustrated and told his sister about it, his siblings felt disappointed and spoke to him, but he was rude to them all and said it’s his life. He came home over the weekend and I tried to talk to him about living with him, but he said no, that I should not raise the topic again. I”m really frustrated, my spirit is down and I have no one to talk to. I was forced to tell my mum about it but she said I should be patient. I’m his legal wife. I’m considering leaving him but I have no job yet that can sustain me and the two kids. My emotions hurt real bad. No hubby-wife talk or gist when he’s around, (he’s been doing this for over 3 years now) and keeps to his phone which he has passworded.
Please advise me because I’m losing it already.
This man’s behavior is a huge threat to your sanity. Please leave him oh. Get a job and leave him abeg. Marriage no be do or die oh my sister.
I’m surprised that you still have unprotected sex with him despite all these. Nne start by insisting on condom if you must have sex with him. Get something doing no matter how small(you could apply to teach in a private school). That man can give you HIV and you wouldn’t know until it’s too late while he would be taking drugs with his concubines. Your children need you alive except you want them to be slaves to your husband’s concubines when you are no more
What exactly are you doing there? How do women cope with so much disrespect? Get something to do and move on. Legal wife my foot, if you catch a deadly disease from this man what will happen to you kids? Will being a legal wife take care of them or cure a deadly disease?
Oh God I known how u feel but please if u r legally married to this man ,go get a lawyer and fight for divorce, no marriage in heaven.is only a living being that can talk about marriage ,save ur life from terminal disease but before u do that get something doing.
So after all the stupid things he did, u still got pregnant for him again? Okoo
Gud question
What’s the essence of staying in an unhappy marriage?
I stand wt Eka’s abeg
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Leave that thing you call marriage. It’s not worth it. Leave. Adultery warrants divorce. Abeg go before he infects you with HIV. That means he does not even protect himself when having sex outside. Abeg leave ooo. Na God de take care of Pickin.
I greeted all you my sisters and brothers in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ.
to my sisters I pray that the Almighty God will be your conforter in the name of Jesus. Please I strongly advise you sisters to be patient with your husbands, please sisters spend quality time in prayers to pray for your husbands. You may not agreed with me but if you take to the advice it will greatly work out for you.
The devil has done so much by scattering couples of this day, let me tell you the simple truth my sisters the devil doesn’t want couples to live in peace but to fight or one issues or the other.
The husband that took you to the altar and suddenly he started misbehaving no is not him something is totally wrong some where
my sisters don’t let us be ignorant of the devices of the devil.
If the 2 couples go appart it will certainly affect the destiny of the children’s why? Because the bible says 2 are better then 1.
Why devil is having access to the couples of this day, is because couples this day doesn’t pray and no prayer altar, what I mean by prayer altar is couples should be addicted to prayers every time.
The world we are now there is no couples that can succeed in living together for the rest of there life without been prayfull, the devil is out in full to fight and to scattered couples so the future of the children can be polluted, diverted, transfer or kill and is very sad, is every where not only in Nigeria.
My sisters is the devil that want to make you to get fed up and be frustrated, lets joint hands to fight a good fight of faith,
Marriage is the institutions that God himself established even before church, God is so much interested in marriage and marriage is enjoyable not to be endure so if you are enduring your marriage then it means something is totally wrong.
Then you need to take it to God in prayers, my sisters if you can look back back of mothers and fathers life, you hardly see them been separated.
any child that the parents separated you hardly see them doing good in life.
Either you find them on the street getting involved in the devices of the street or doing abominable things or committing crime.
My sisters for your marriage to stable and give you joy, peace and enjoyable you have a lot of work to do if it will take you some sleepless you need to do it, for the sake of your children, Look for bible believing church that have spiritual knowledge/insights that can design whatever is happen, another things that do affect our marriages is the both foundation, you see my sisters our foundation has very important role to play in our life’s because we never can tell what our forefathers must have done, the spirit and power that fought and defeated our forefathers is not fighting us in another dimension by attacking our marriages, another things is the foundation of our marriages, how we laid the foundation of marriages has very powerful role to play in our marriage life as well, I pray that every marriage that devil has attack we be revived in the name of Jesus. And for my brothers the same things apply to you. If wife doesn’t listen to you and she do think she have the right to do whatever she feels like, my brother there is a way to make wife feels guilty of her attitude, pray for her every night if you give an instruction and she doesn’t listen. You leave her continue praying for her. If you noticed her going about with men’s is just for you to take it to God in prayer, you still need to love her as bible commanded, With quality time in prayer the issues we be sort and your marriage we be restored back, my brother sometimes it might be difficult that’s why we are human beings that live in a flesh, but you still need to pray for her and the resurrection of your marriage, I pray that the Lord God Almighty will visit the heart of your wife and make her to be submit in Jesus name amen. God bless you all in Jesus name. please you can write the following prayer point and pray it at your closet. (1) Powers that is working against my marriage Die in the name of Jesus. (2) Any powers from my father/mother house that is attacking our marriage life Die in the name of Jesus. (3) Powers from my partner father/mother house attacking our marriage Die in the name of Jesus. (4) Environmental powers that does not want my marriage in. Peace, Joy, enjoyable Die in the name of Jesus. (5) strange ladies/men’s that has occupied my position in my partner heart be arrested by the fire of God in the name of Jesus. (6) Any Powers that is eating up my love in the heart of my partner Die shamefully in the name of Jesus. (7) Oh God arise in your majesty and mighty power restored my marriage back to the perfect position in the name of Jesus. I belongs to mountain of fire croydon regional hqr London UK