Dear MIMsters: Why I Regret Getting Married 4 Months Ago
I am a young lady with a caring attitude towards men. I was officially married 4 months ago.
My ex BF is someone I care and cherish so much but my girlfriend caused a lot of problems in our relationship because I trusted her.
This made me lose the relationship and I had no other choice than to go look elsewhere. Due to frustration, I became pregnant after courting this new guy and our families fixed a wedding date.
To cut the long story short, months to our wedding, my fiance’s brothers and sisters told me that we will have to live in their mother’s house for some reasons and I accepted.
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After the wedding, I realised these things.
- Hubby’s family members are the kind of people who collectively contribute to buy anything needed in the house like foodstuffs.
- When I ask hubby for any money for personal use, he would reply, “sebi you are also working.”
- I got to find out recently that everything hubby told me about himself are all lies. I don’t know what he does for living. What he told me is different from what I am observing.
- I am not allowed to check hubby’s phone, not allowed to handle his ATM card and many other things.
- The most painful part is when I sent him to help me check on my parent because I couldn’t travel. Hubby collected transport fare from me to go.
I ended up having a stillbirth. Hubby insults me physically and with negative words anytime he is angry, even in public. His family, especially the sisters now live with us claiming they are taking of their mother and they have turned me into their slave. They speak to me and one of their other brother’s wife like we are slaves and send us on errands like little children.
Even when we are sleeping, they can wake us up to go run errands for them.
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Now, my ex is back begging me to come back. I do not want to have extra marital affairs but I am not happy in my marriage. It was four months ago we went to the registry.
What should I do?
If you are not happy, then leave. No one deserves to be unhappy in their marriage.
This is slavery, kindly quit if you can’t take the heat
You deserve to be happy and if you aren’t in there, Look for your happiness where it is. Leave this marriage before you die. marriage should be enjoyed for the most part and not endured.
hmmmmn
It’s better you leave because marriage is to be enjoyed not endure.
well, u don’t know wat can happen if u marry ur ex too. I think u should quit d marriage and take ur time b4 getting into anoda relationship.
You can get an annulment, it will be like the marriage never existed. Please don’t immediately go back to your ex. Take time for yourself, love yourself. God loves u so much and he is not mad at you. Go to him and he will guide you.