Dear MIMsters: Was I Wrong to Kick My Older Brother Out of My House?
Was I wrong to kick my older brother out of my house?
I have an older brother who lives with me. I am married and a mum of two beautiful kids, a boy and a girl.
My older brother has a skill in carpentry but he says he wants to go into the ministry. I am currently funding his theological course. He has done 2 years and has one more year left to go.
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I have two house helps who both live in the boys quarters at the back of my building. They are both in their early twenties. I stumbled across one of them speaking rudely to my brother. This brother of mine is almost 10 years older than me. Immediately, I rebuked her sharply and told her off but it got me thinking.
A while later, I called her privately to question her. I asked her if anything was going on between both of them that I should know of. Then she told me that my brother has been coming to their room secretly at night to ask her to sleep with him. She told me that he promised he would marry her if she does.
She told me that one night, he was so persistent on having sex with her that her dress tore, then she told me she was going to come and report to me. Telling him that made him leave her room for that night but he still disturbs her for sex.
Right after that, I called my other siblings, told them what happened. I confronted my brother afterwards and he said that I should not mind that dirty girl. But you know what? I believe her because my brother is jobless. He does nothing but dresses well, eats and loafs around.
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I know my brother has no intentions of marrying my househelp. He just said so to get in between her pants. I think he just wants to exploit her sexually and I’m not in support of that. I wondered what could happen to this poor girl if he got her pregnant. I concluded that brother was up to no good and I told him to leave my house. At least she helps me and is very good with my kids while he does nothing for me.
My relatives are now telling me that it was wrong for me to choose the girl over my brother. Was I wrong?
Nope you weren’t wrong. Just because she’s not related to you don’t mean you shouldn’t protect her. What if he tries same with your own daughter? Please let him go like you said she helps you around the house you can’t afford to loose her. Good househelps ain’t easy to come by. Help your brother from afar.