Nigerian Mom, Gbemi Adekoya Reveals Deep Lesson Her 8-Year Old Daughter Taught Her

A Nigerian mom, Gbemi Adekoya has revealed a great lesson she learnt from her 8-year old daughter, Alexis and it is deep.

According to the mom-of-3, who shared a deep meaning note she found in her daughter’s room, she had asked her if she was willing to talk about it but to her dismay, Alexis was not the writer but the receiver of the note.

She said offhandedly, her daughter responded to her saying:

Oh that’s David’s. I noticed he was sad and when I asked him if he wanted to talk, he said no. So, I told him to write down his feelings. He’s okay now. I gave him a hug and I told him how much I love him”

READ ALSO: “I have faith in my daddy” – President Mahama’s 8 Year Old Daughter Pens Emotional Letter After Father Loses Ghana Elections

See Gbemi’s post below:

 

This note is a couple of months old and I’m only just now ready to share it. .
“Sometimes I feel like nobody cares about me”
.
Oh wow! Child?! Really?!
.
I saw the note in Alexis’ room and trying to mask how alarmed/guilty/attacked I felt, I calmly asked her if she wanted to talk about it. I wasn’t ready for her reply.
.
“Oh that’s David’s. I noticed he was sad and when I asked him if he wanted to talk, he said no. So, I told him to write down his feelings. He’s okay now. I gave him a hug and I told him how much I love him”.

She said it so casually, like it was nothing. And I stood there, short of words. My heart swelling and expanding… I thought it was going to burst ❤️
.
How did she know to love her brother like so? To respect his feelings when he didn’t want to talk? To encourage him to express his feelings by writing them down? To reassure him and remind him that he is loved? To not dismiss him?Or make it about her? To not assume that he was attacking her? To create a safe space where he could open up?

How does an 8 year old know these things I’m only just learning in my Counseling Techniques class??? I can’t honestly take credit. I didn’t teach her these things. I mean, I’m still working on trying to be a better listener. And sometimes, I’m so caught up in my own struggles, I’m not paying enough attention to others around me, to know if they’re sad.
.
My daughter is teaching me that carrying each other’s burdens, like God has asked us to do, can be simple and I can do it. That getting a masters in counseling is great and all, but while I’m studying for it, I can still be the change I would like to see in the world, one act of kindness at a time.
❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

READ ALSO: Star Kid! 7 Year Old Nigerian Girl Completes 10km Out of 42km at Lagos City Marathon – PHOTOS

View this post on Instagram

This note is a couple of months old and I'm only just now ready to share it. . "Sometimes I feel like nobody cares about me" . Oh wow! Child?! Really?! . I saw the note in Alexis' room and trying to mask how alarmed/guilty/attacked I felt, I calmly asked her if she wanted to talk about it. I wasn't ready for her reply. . "Oh that's David's. I noticed he was sad and when I asked him if he wanted to talk, he said no. So, I told him to write down his feelings. He's okay now. I gave him a hug and I told him how much I love him". . She said it so casually, like it was nothing. And I stood there, short of words. My heart swelling and expanding… I thought it was going to burst ❤️ . How did she know to love her brother like so? To respect his feelings when he didn't want to talk? To encourage him to express his feelings by writing them down? To reassure him and remind him that he is loved? To not dismiss him? Or make it about her? To not assume that he was attacking her? To create a safe space where he could open up? . How does an 8 year old know these things I'm only just learning in my Counseling Techniques class??? I can't honestly take credit. I didn't teach her these things. I mean, I'm still working on trying to be a better listener. And sometimes, I'm so caught up in my own struggles, I'm not paying enough attention to others around me, to know if they're sad. . My daughter is teaching me that carrying each other's burdens, like God has asked us to do, can be simple and I can do it. That getting a masters in counseling is great and all, but while I'm studying for it, I can still be the change I would like to see in the world, one act of kindness at a time. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

A post shared by Gbemi Adekoya (@gbemisoke) on

READ ALSO: Bold Step! How a 7 year old Girl asked Google for a Job | You won’t Believe the Reply she got from the CEO

Leave A Comment

Your email address will not be published.