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Single Women: Life Coach, Solomon Buchi’s Message Is All The Motivation You Need To Not Settle For Less

Nigerian life coach, writer, and radical feminist, Solomon Buchi has shared truly inspiring words directed at helping single women to exercise their power to set their standards and stand by it, just like men.

According to the gender equality activist, though men would normally flirt around with many women, they know what they really want and won’t compromise on their standards.

In his words, full of wisdom, if a man wants a submissive wife, he wouldn’t mind waiting for her no matter how long it takes. They normally would not just jump at any women because they are desperate to get married and so if the submissive woman they want to marry doesn’t come as quickly as they would wish, they always wait, unlike women who tend to compromise and go for just anybody.

Buchi added that men are very finicky about what they want and that makes it impossible for them to give up on what they so desire.

For him, the past four years have seen him being single and that it isn’t that he hasn’t seen women that he doesn’t like but it is just that he has his preference that he hasn’t seen yet and thus waiting for whenever the one he desires does come around.

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Read Buchi’s full post below:

“Let me tell you this: Men hardly compromise their standards. If a man wants a submissive woman, he will wait till she shows up. Men are very finicky about what they want and they hardly give up. I wish women will adopt this drive too. Women are always the ones compromising.

“I’ve been single for 4 years. Not that I haven’t met women, but I know exactly what I want. Most women cannot wait, but Men are very calculative and it’s not inherently so, it’s just because we are groomed to feel justified by achieving our set goals.

“Even when a man is playing around with many women, he knows what he really wants, and that’s why we see instances where men leave relationships even at the height of demanding responsibilities. Why? Men are selfish much more than women, and that’s not always a bad thing.

Women on the other side are the ones who compromise more because they are fed with the fables that having a man validates their womanhood. In fact, even some progressive still compromise wrongly. Women are groomed to give endless benefit of doubts even to a clear douchebag.

Ask men if they’ve had to go below their standards to be with a woman and ask women same question. Women will have more affirmative responses. This is why many women are in detrimentally compromising relationships/marriages — some getting a divorce, cos they are now informed.

Women, exercise your power to set your standards and stand by it. Be ‘selfish’. Uphold realistic standards. Do not compromise unreasonably. If men get the kind of women they want, you can get the kind of man you desire. You’ll just have to wait…Be ‘selfish’; it’s your life.”

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