I have been married for 4 years now without a child.
My husband is based abroad. 2 years ago, a lady called me and asked me who am I to my husband. She asked if I am his wife and if I have kids. She told me she has been living with my hubby and that she always sees my number in his phone. She said she asked him who I was and was told that I am his little cousin. I told her to put the phone on speaker that I want to hear my hubby’s voice, which she did. After 2 hours she called, then I heard her asking, ”who is she?” My husband replied, “I told you she is my cousin”.
She asked him, “what if the baby had stayed, will I be a your 2nd wife?”
My husband replied, “did she tell you she is pregnant for me?”
Hubby called me a few hours after she hung up. I confronted him and we had a big fight on phone. The lady even sent me pictures of her and my husband.
His family members got involved and tried to settle this matter. Hubby promised to bring me over really soon which he did last year. On getting here, I found out that he had rented an apartment for me. He comes to see me two to three times a week. He will spend some hours with me, sometimes spend the night and would leave very early the next day.
I asked him why do we have to live in different apartments. He said his company gave him an apartment and would not be wise for him to bring me there.
Since I came here, I begged him to look for a job for me but he’s refused. I also begged him to register me in a school instead of staying at home all day he refused. No one has ever visited me since I got here. I have never met any of his friends, have never called that lady. I even told him that I want to go back home so I can get myself busy with something because I am tired of staying at home. He’s refused, saying if I leave, that will be the end of our marriage, and if I want to leave, I should call my parent so they can send me money for my flight. Where I reside, there are no blacks living around.
Two days ago, I logged into that lady’s Facebook wall. Even though she’s blocked me, I can still check her friend’s wall . I did saw the lady and my husband at a party. The pix was taken on the 23rd of December and she looked pregnant in that picture. In the morning of that same 23rd, hubby had told me he was going for a Christmas party that he was invited to. I need advise on how to handle this. How should I confront hubby? How do I leave this marriage because I am tired.