Dear MIMsters: I Need Help as I’m Fed Up With My Husband
I got married to my hubby 6 years ago and we have 2 kids and I am fed up.
I’m more advanced educationally than hubby. I started higher institution a year after I had my first child.
Problems started when I told hubby to further his education but he said he wants to do business. I told him that whatever him that getting an education would help him in whatever he wanted to do but hubby felt I was controlling him.
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We had a huge misunderstanding sometime ago, so bad that his family got involved. I was so surprised when the most senior family member of hubby’s family who was in town told me that what belongs to me belongs to my hubby, that it doesn’t matter who provides.
This is an Apostle in the church, that would not allow his graduate wife work.
Hubby tells lies a lot. He works with the ministry of education as security. He is contract staff who earns 10k monthly and according to him, he only he gets paid after 6 months. I have been doing all I could to stand in the gap and this made him so relax.
Taking on all financial responsibilities even made me almost forget my obligations to my parents. I pay the rents, children’s school fees, my needs, clothing, you name it.
I had my second child 2 years ago, but I resumed duty as soon as my baby was born. I took a loan to buy him a commercial bus for him to drive so he can fulfill his duties as a father. When the bus came, he felt like he was on top of the world and would come home with different excuses and stories.
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He wouldn’t listen to me, so I had to keep bearing our family’s financial burden even though he was making an income driving the bus.
The day I asked to know how much he had saved from driving the bus, I was shocked to hear nothing. He gave me excuses of buying this and that. I almost fainted, cos the deductions to service my loan and cooperative loan was affecting my take home.
Out of annoyance, I screamed at the top of my voice wanting to seize the keys from him. Hubby beat the hell out of me, but I got him arrested. His family came and he painted me black before them.
I only told my in-laws that my only witness was the Bible before us and that if they want to judge, they should not forget that they too have daughter. I told them all that happened. I was shocked that they only looked at each other, and later apologized to me.
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I told them I did the right thing and he promised never to lay hid hands on me again. But his attitude towards his responsibilities never changed.
August 2017, will be 2 years since my husband has been driving that bus, yet he still has no savings, Mimsters, no saving. I took his bank card to check his balance, and I saw only N5oo.
I’m fed up.
Whenever the bus gets damaged, he’ll sit at home. Once, he sat at home from March, April, May, June until I gave him money in July to fix the bus.
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I appreciate God for his provision and my ability to keep my home but I have never enjoyed my hubby for six years now. Is this a spiritual problem or what? Dear Mimsters I need help.
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The only help you need now is to get a lawyer and divorce his ass straight up. You are better off a single mom than being married to a burden of a man.
My dear sister don’t try it o,it happen to me also although it was not easy my hubby left home for 3months because of that but I reported him to his family and they ask me not to abort it,he came back after 3 months,d pregnant is 6 months now,could you believe that my hubby care for me more than anybody now,so pls is a matter of time he will later come back to his senses
Kindly throw the fool out and gain your sanity. Make sure you have access to the bus so you can sell it and realize some change. RUBBISH!!!!
You are more or less a single mum dear. I advice you take ur kids and stay away from him and not forgetting to take along every documents for de bus. If he turns a new leaf and want you back den you set out ur conditions. He’s not a serious man at all
honestly Langofa Pamela has said my mind, follow what she said.
when he really change u can go back to him
It is not a spiritual problem. he is lazy because you can stand on the gap. When you stop providing or you leave him to stew in his stupidity he will sit up.
STOP Enabling him. You have tried.