Dear MIMsters: You Don’t Want Any Child To Suffer What I Endured For Many Years

This is to all the women justifying the actions of a man who would defend having an erection over a little girl, you don’t want any child to suffer what I endured for many years. This is my story…

I was abused serially by an “uncle” while growing up and because of fear of what my mom would do to me, I couldn’t tell her even though I really wanted to. After so many years of living under this abuse, I summoned courage and told my elder sister who is much older than me.

Now, the reason I decided to tell this sister of mine in particular was because I felt she would stand up for me. I’ve known her to be a very outspoken person who could stand up to anyone. But to my surprise, she laughed it off and just got up and walked away. My sister went on to remain friends with this uncle even many years later. As I write, I think they might still be friends. It broke me and made me ashamed. I wished I never told her. The one person I thought would protect me ignored such an issue to maintain a friendship that was financially beneficial to her.

Over the years, I’ve grown beyond my scars.

I informed my husband before we got married that I was a victim of abuse and we talked about it. He was both glad I told him and felt sorry for me but I haven’t forgiven my sister. I suffered abuse for years and it killed every self esteem I could ever have but what killed me most was my sister’s attitude to the whole thing.

So to the main issue; if we are ever in a place to defend a child from the actions of a pervert, let’s not hesitate to do so. It might be a difficult journey especially if it’s a spouse, but in the end, we would have saved one more child from this horrifying experience. Nothing justifies the action of a pervert. Nothing. Being sex starved is not a justification. The girl child is so vulnerable at this age and time that I think it’s our duty to protect them whether they are our biological children or not.

That said, I hope those women justifying the husband’s actions do have a rethink. You don’t want any child to go through what I went through.