Online dating can be a tricky and treacherous business; going on countless dates, many of which go absolutely nowhere, spending money you don’t have in the hope of finding ‘the one’.
However, a 30-year-old woman who went on 164 first dates in two years has revealed how it led to her finding her husband.
The unnamed woman took to Reddit to share her tips for finding the man of your dreams through online dating.
The dating expert explained how she would search the internet for her ideal partner like a ‘job’ and put ‘150 percent effort’ into it.
Taking to the ‘Ask Me Anything’ subreddit, the woman gave her advice about dating and shared how she knew date 164 was the one for her.
The woman began by explaining that she had spent all of her 20s in two long-term relationships. However, after both of those didn’t work out, she turned to dating apps in hopes of finding the love of her life.
“I gave it 150 percent effort and treated it like a job. It was a two-year whirlwind of love, lust, disappointment, hope, frustration, insecurity, confidence, and general exhaustion. Thankfully, first date #164 eventually became my husband.”
The dating pro noted that she ‘meticulously’ tracked each date she went on. At the end of the post, she added: “Ask me anything about the dating blitz or my weird tracking habits.”
In the comments section, she shared some of her dating tips. She began by sharing how others could ace first dates.
“First date tips: Ask. Don’t get stuck texting back and forth forever. Bonus points if you can slip it in in a creative or smooth way, like “Sounds like [X, in response to what she’s just said]. Maybe you can tell me more about it over a drink this week?”
On the date, ask questions. You would not believe how many guys show 0 interest in actually getting to know things about your life.
Be aware of your body language. Smile, lean in, make expressions while she’s talking to show you’re actively listening. Shorter first dates! Dinners are too big of a commitment. Drink, walk, picnic, event,”
Her last tip for putting your best foot forward on a first date is to be honest about how you feel about the person, make sure to compliment them, and make plans for a second date.
While on dating apps, she suggested people should try to go on dates as fast as possible and avoid becoming ‘pen pals.’
She also detailed the worst first date she had ever been on. According to her:
“Usually, within a couple minutes of meeting someone, you can tell if there’s any connection between you. Just a brief interaction says more about their energy and how they carry themselves than hundreds of text messages.
Unfortunately, getting that clarity at the very start of a date doesn’t mean you can just up and leave. One time, I’d agreed to dinner for a first date (unlike me — usually I’d go for a drink or meet at a park where you can be in and out faster).
I tried to ask him questions to get the conversation flowing, and he acted too smart and too sophisticated for any topic I brought up.
Mind you, this man did not ask me a single question about myself. Service was slow, so we were sitting there together for 2.5 painful hours. I couldn’t wait to get out of there.
When he said he’d like to see the dessert menu at the end… I was dying inside.”