Dear MIMsters: Hubby Wants Me to Leave My Well Paid Job For This Reason

I posted sometime ago about getting a part time night job as a nurse when my baby was almost 5 months. I got the well paid job and everything was going well until recently when hubby told me to stop the job because it is affecting his business.

He cannot travel as he would like to to go buy goods for his business because whenever he travels he spends about 2 nights.

I have refused to quit and it is causing serious problems in our home and these are my reasons:

1. hubby is going through some financial issues presently and my salary has been helping me a great deal to run the affairs of the house and to fend for take our 2 kids.

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2. I have 2 younger one’s back in Nigeria whose University education I’m responsible for and every other bills.

3. I am also fending for my mother and grandmother. The house I’m building for my mother is yet to be completed and above all, I cannot travel back to Nigeria due to the kind of document I have.

I need to work to be able to demand for citizenship so as to be able to travel back home. For the past 6 years, I have been living under the shadows of my hubby. Everything, I mean everything up to my mobile phone, my car, my Phone sim card are in his name.

I am very comfortable with the nursing job as I work 14 to 15 nights maximum in a month, from 9 p.m to 7 a.m or 8 p.m to 8.a.m. This earns me an equivalent of 600k-800k or more in Naira.

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Meanwhile, hubby has been so used to my financial dependance on him. I think this why he is acting up as he has noticed that I don’t ask him for a penny anymore. Sometimes, I even borrow him money to pay some bills.

I want to know the best way forward. Should I quit the job and return to square zero (be a stay at home mom who waiting for hubby to pay all my bills)?

He has no other plans for me than to stay at home and look after the children while he provides the money, knowing fully well that he will only give me money for feeding and nothing more to assist my family back home because of his financial predicament. Or should I continue the job?

If yes, how do I convince him to allow me continue the job without causing problems in our home?

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P.S: I have told him that he can go buy his goods within the 4 days in a week when I am not working but he has refused, insisting that I quit my job.