Dear Mimster: Should I Reveal this Thing I Did to my Husband?
My heart is troubled; I could do with some wise counsel. I got married to my husband 5 years ago and we are blessed with two kids. Before our wedding, he was working with a communication company in Nigeria. A few months after our wedding, unknown to me, he quit the job due to a misunderstanding at his work place with hope that he would get another job.
This is his 5th year without a job. All these years, we have been living and managing from my meagre salary and my dad’s assistance. I have been out of job for close to a year now and it has been like hell for us with little or no assistance from family members. These years have not been without quarrels, silly arguments, harsh hurting words from my husband but I kept enduring.
To cut the long story short, recently, I came across this man, an Admin Officer working in a company where I went in search for a job. Seeing the desperation to get the job, he asked me to become his friend that he will give me the job and take care of my needs.
I did not give in initially, but at a time, when my 2 children were ill, there was no money to either get them drugs or food., I went back to this man, one thing led to the other – and we had sex! After that, I was able to buy drugs for the kids and also some food stuffs with the money the man gave me. Since then, I have been living with this guilt and have kept it away from my husband. Even though I have confessed my sin to God, and I believe God has forgiven me, should I still confess this to my husband or continue as if nothing happened?
Your candid advice and opinion is needed please.
am not sure what u should do.but tellin him seems right. but it might just b a disaster not everyone can handle it.
Hmm this is a difficult one. You sought help from the wrong source. Financial difficulty should not lead you to break your marital vows. As a child of God, you should rely on God because He is your source and can make a way in any financial difficulty. All you need do is ask and believe that you receive and you will never be disappointed. As per confession to your husband, don’t do it. If he knows about it, he will never trust you again and you might loose your marriage. I will advice you to ask God for forgiveness and repent from your sin. If you still feel the guilt, then go confess to a reverend father.
Difference bw men and women, A man will cheat continually just to have fun,give no qualms and is unperturbed,a woman will cheat bc of family crisis just once and is so guilty that she is going crazy
My sister, God sees your heart and has forgiven you
I pray that Your family will experience financial freedom IJN,
Confess to your husband and loose your marriage. Or stay quiet about it and remain with him but please don’t let it repeat itself again.
Hmmmm! I would say u should tell him but d outcome cld be terrible for u. Maybe u wait for d day he is in a very happy mood and tell him
Everyone advising her to tell her Huby plz if u are in her shoes ???? can u?
That alone will break the trust in the relationship, so easy to say she should but I tell you not easy to. Follow your instinct but be prepared for emotional trouble positive or negative.
Do not tell him if you still want your marriage, bt what you did is very wrong, just keep on asking God for forgiveness.
What God demands from you is confession to your husband, Pray hard, confide in a trusted and respected pastor or elderly person whom your husband respects. Pls confess to him for your peace of mind and most importantly, HEAVEN!.