Dear MIMsters: I’m 30 years old but I look like 50 due to my husband’s double standards

I’m 30 years old. I have been married for 3 years now and God has blessed my marriage with a beautiful baby who is one year old. My husband is a caring and responsible man but the problem I’m having with him is that I don’t trust him at all due to his double standards.

As soon as we got married, he banned me from wearing trousers. He also banned me from dressing well to look good. He said how can his wife be wearing make up, trousers and attachments when he’s a worker in the church? What I am confused about is that I used to wear all these things before we got married and he was fully aware.

Look at me now, I really look older than my age. I can’t go out with my mates anymore all because of my marriage.

To add to my worry, it is obvious that my husband doesn’t have a male friend. All his friends are female and they all wear trousers, make up, attachments and wigs, and here I am, sitting at home and looking like mama 50, and he hardly have sex with me. If he eventually does, it’s like once in 4 months after so much persuasion. For these reasons, I do not to trust him. I think he is having extra marital affairs.

I need your advice on how to handle this as I want to go back to the “real me.” I can no longer keep tying wrapper, wearing long skirts and applying only white powder. Please tell me how to handle this amicably without having problems.