Many of us believe that weight loss is the answer to many of our problems. We think that when we lose weight we’ll not just feel more confident, but we’ll improve our marriages, be more successful, have more friends, or just feel happier in general. For a lot of people weight loss is the golden ticket we’ve been waiting on.
Losing weight is incredibly personal, and sometimes the pressure to be body positive is just as tough as the pressure to look a certain way. It’s a lot to balance.
It doesn’t matter how you look or how much you weigh,the changes you make inside will be more dramatic than those outside because weight loss needs to be something you do for you, for the right reasons. These tips have come in handy for me:
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1.Be kind to yourself
You can find negativity in literally ever single corner of the world, so there’s no sense in harboring it within yourself.
When you visit friends and family, they remind you how slim you used to look, how beautiful you used to be before childbirth. Do whatever it takes to get you in that confident space and stay there.
Affirmations, motivations whatever you need. Get in a good space where you love yourself and make that space your top priority. Always remember that you’re not losing weight because there’s something wrong with you (trust me, there’s nothing wrong with you!).
2. Keep the scale aside
Numbers lie. And they’re one more thing you don’t need to torture yourself with. Your weight will fluctuate day to day, based on weight loss, muscle gain, hormones — even how much you have to pee. Focus instead on how you feel and how your clothes fit. If you must weigh yourself, do it once per month, not once per day.
3.Throw Out The Fashion Magazines While Yo
Seeing slim women and how great they look all the time might make you feel you don’t look great.
When you’re trying to do healthy things for you, it’s tempting to start thumbing through magazines for tips on how to do it. Without a good dose of media literacy, you’ll be unwittingly exposing yourself to pages of models and marketing, some of which is designed to make you feel bad about yourself so you’ll buy stuff.
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4. Make Peace With Exercise
If you hate dragging yourself to the gym, then don’t. If going to the gym makes you uncomfortable or self-conscious, there’s no law that says you have to go. There are a million ways to exercise that don’t feel like a ton of work. Some might even feel like fun. Go dancing, hike in a pretty place or swim around at a water park. Find something that makes you happy so you will look forward to doing it.
5. Make Peace With Yourself
If you are not happy with yourself, you can’t feel good .
I know you’ve heard it a million times before, you’re not going to magically become happy when you lose weight. You get to make the decisions about your body, and if that includes losing weight, you don’t have to explain that decision to anyone – except yourself. It can be a long, hard journey to get to this point, but you need to understand that there is nothing wrong with the body you live in now, that you’re so much more than how you look, that society’s beauty standards are rigid and oppressive. You’re amazing and beautiful at any size. Your brains, your talent and all the things inside that make you special have nothing to do with how you look. Let this be your mantra.
6. Focus On Other Things
Give your career and other things in your life complete focus.
Centering your life around a food, weight, and body obsession is no way to live. The best thing to do is to make some small changes you know are healthy for you, then get on with the rest of your life. If you put to much pressure on yourself to be perfect, you’ll fail before you ever begin. If you are the type to get preoccupied (like me), then lean hard on your hobbies and your friends.
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7. Don’t Feel Guilty
If I didn’t take sugar I won’t be big.
If I ate less food I won’t be the big.
You were pregnant. No need beating yourself you were pregnant
8. Surround yourself with positive people
You can join a group where other mothers talk about their weight challenges and seek solution .
Stay away from relatives and friends that rope everything to your weight and judge you endlessly.
9. Stop thinking about it
The more you think about it, the more you remain unhappy.
Weight loss happens when we are not even aware. We just find ourselves losing it.
10. Find one thing you LOVE about your body NOW
Find just one thing you love about your body right now and start focusing on that one thing every single day. Pause to focus on it, admire it, appreciate it. Do this instead of focusing on your jeans size or the number on the scale.
Tags: Baby weight, postpartum body, self confidence
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