Mum Battered Daily By Her Children Shares Shocking Story
47-year-old mum, Pauline Bubb, reportedly lived in constant fear of her violent children for so long until she finally decided to get help and take charge.
Mirror reports;
While most parents cannot wait to greet their children with a big hug when they get back from school, it was the time of day Pauline Bubb dreaded the most. She was attacked up to 30 times a day and left bruised by her own children.
She lived in fear of her angelic-looking nine-year-old daughter, Sapphire and her violent brother,Spencer, 11, who would join in some of the abuse. For a long time, the exhausted single parent was too embarrassed to tell anyone she was being “beaten up” by her children.
Cowering in the corner, she would have to wait for the children to calm down and would sit shaking with fear as she waited for them to return from school, afraid they might fly into a rage when they walked in.
Pauline, from Southampton, said: “At worst Sapphire was attacking me 30 times a day. My legs would often be bruised and I had to keep them covered. She started off two years ago with controlling behaviour. She would ask me a question like, ‘Can I have a packet of crisps?’ but then say ‘Yes Sapphire’. Then I had to say it, but exactly how she wanted me to. I couldn’t say it too fast or too slow, I had to stand still, I couldn’t move, I couldn’t blink. She would repeat herself 20 or 30 times. If I said no, she would get louder, start swearing and hit me. Four months ago she bit my face.”
Pauline also described how Spencer started to become violent at an even younger age – and stabbed her in the stomach with scissors when he was four.
The next year he was diagnosed with attention deficit hyperactivity disorder, or ADHD.
“He was very angry,” she said. “It was because I said no to something. Another time he strangled me from behind. I was frightened of my own kids.”
While Spencer’s violence abated under medication, Sapphire’s exploded when she turned seven. Her twin sister, Jorja, rarely joined in and would often retreat in silence. But Sapphire and Spencer would regularly turn on their mum in terrifying attacks.
Pauline added: “I started to feel sick waiting for them to come home, my stomach would churn. I would have palpitations. I would get myself in such a state. I felt embarrassed to say, ‘My children are beating me up’. That’s why I let it go on. Outside they had impeccable manners, they held open doors, and picked up things. It would happen behind closed doors.”
Pauline has two other daughters who are in their twenties from a previous marriage. She split up from the father of her youngest three not long after the twins were born.
She said: “Sometimes they acted like a mob and turned on me, all three of them. I would go to my bedroom or the toilet. Sometimes I was scared to come out and face them – but they haven’t got anyone else, only me.”
The most recently available figures show that 118 children aged under 14 were prosecuted for domestic abuse in 2012/13 and more than 2,100 teenagers aged between 14 and 17.
Sapphire says: “I don’t understand why I get angry, I hurt people and I kick. I have anger issues.”
Unlike her brother, the schoolgirl has not been diagnosed with ADHD, but has been diagnosed with anxiety and separation issues – she often gets upset when she thinks her mum is leaving.
Parenting expert, Islay Downey, who has worked to help the Bubb family since they took part in filming, admitted it is growing problem. She said one-in-11 families experience similar problems to Pauline’s.
She explained: “When parents lack confidence, children get more power than they should. They need boundaries, they need firm but fair parents. It’s not children who are the demons here, they behave as they do because of us.”
It is a lesson Pauline admitted took her too long to learn.
She said: “It made me sad that they could be so angry and hurt me. They bullied me. I was scared to say no. It got to the point where, if they wanted to, they could have a packet of crisps before dinner or stay up until 10pm.”
Last year she reached breaking point and got help by signing up to a parenting course. She now thinks she was making mistakes which pushed her children to violence. “I was inconsistent. I had no boundaries and had lost my parental control. They didn’t feel safe. I was trying to be a mum and a dad and a friend. I wanted them to like me. They are my world.”
Since the course, Pauline has started saying no to her children and they have calmed down.
She added: “It’s simple things like eating at the table. Being confident in myself has changed things. Occasionally they still get violent but it is short-lived. They they are healthy and doing well at school. I love them to pieces.”
OMG!!! Battered by your own kids? Those kids need Jesus.
Hmmmmmmmmmmmmm wao this is serious….. Thank God she has found remedy
hmmmm I hope the kids knows the effects of what they are doing. too bad. your own mother, no matter the gravity of her offence.
Nawa o, thank God for Nigeria. They would never try such here. They need Jesus real good.
Many families aboard re sufferin like dis n cant say it out. Dey really need jesus. Lol
That one no go happen of naija!
Never ll it happen in naija, they need Jesus for real
I always thak God for being an African nd a Nigerian at dat cos if u hear d type of things dt happen in oerseas u go bgin question urself.
When the western mentality is, don’t spank a kid or even shout when they’re wrong or else your kid will dial 911 and you will be arrested for chastising your own kid. How will an 11 year old attack his mom and how can i be afraid of my own kid???? Mtshewwww….. you guys should continue with your culture.
Nawa ur children having power over u menh single parenting is not a joke oh well thank GOD she was able to control them now if not casala for burst
Hmmmmm, I am really speechless.
This one no fit happen for naija now
God have mercy
This is so inhumane. This will not happen in Africa. Where has mummy gone wrong for her kids to do this to her?
Humm nawa
I will beat dem and go to jail
It can never happen here…….if u can’t discipline them, Bring them to me and I will help u
Yes,parents have to be firm and confident when handling their children
Dis sounds like a novel
That’s why I love african mothers…… Hian! Try it and see what will happen to you small kids that she gave birth to!!!
Mmm..how did it got to that..nawaooo
I can’t
Nawaoooh,oyibo self
Shocking!
i have always said if ur kids think they have the upper most power they loose control never allow a child believe that he or she has control of over you as a parent
Hmmm l trust 9ja parents
See watin lack of beaten d course
Kids under 12 controlling their mum? She let it go out of hand
Shey na for oyibo? They should try it in niger and get the beatings of their lives, nonsense.
White pple and their yeye lives, how can I raise my hand on my elder sister talk more of my mom
Nawao oo I never hear this kind abuse b4 oo lol
I cant help but laugh at mother’s comments,but true enough it cant happen in naija, a family member,a friend or a neighbour WILL notice and scare or beat the sweet Jesus into those kids.ADHD sef go dissapear.Children study people and treat you d way u present yourself.
Nawah oo…dis can never happen in naija.
You can’t try that rubbish in Nigeria na.
Na she do herself.She was too soft
There is nothing like a cane to bring up a good child, there should be a rethink of child discipline in Europe