DEAR MIM: I Reunited With My Husband After A Long Separation But See What’s Happening Now
We’ve been legally married for 10years now.
We were separated for some months 2 years ago after he threw my belongings out. I left with the kids and he did not have access to them, but he came back to beg and we reconciled.
I advised we went for counselling so that we can resolve the our issues, (lack of communication, anger, silent treatment, no family bonding time, unforgiveness). When we reunited, we had a wonderful time.
Six months after, we are back at the same spot, but I was hoping things will get better. It’s 18 months after and we are back to same spot that led us to the initial seperation. His issue is he gets angry easily, most times I don’t even know what I have done wrong, when I even beg, he doesn’t forgive and gives me the silent treatment. He takes care of the children and the house needs, but he doesn’t take care of any of my needs.
In the last 4 months, we have been living like strangers. He doesn’t respond to my greetings but he eats when I cook even though most of the time, he doesn’t allow me to serve him. I am so confused now and don’t know what else to do
Please advice me.
Dear poster from your explanation your hubby is not himself. There is a force behind his actions. Since he is not cheating on you or getting physical am very convinced he is under some demonic influence who doesn’t want him married and live happily. You can decide to do praying and fasting to destroy the foundation working against your marital destiny. Break that hold of the devil over your life.
Politely ask what you have done to warant the silence treatment coz it seems to me you don’t understand yourselve. As for the anger, he needs to go for anger management class. Get someone he respect to talk to you two. There is great need for counseling. Pray for your husband and family.
Your husband is childish sorry to say. Pray for him if you can.
Marriage isn’t torture, for how long are you going to be living this sad life? This guy is a sadist and he enjoys seeing you sad. Some people ain’t just meant to be together.
One: Get something doing if you are not working in order to make you financially independent.
Two: Go for counselling. Tackle all the issues that’s bothering the two of you and come to a compromse on how to deal with those issues. You’ve been married for quite some time and i think by now, some childish behaviours like not talking to your spouse when upset should’ve been dealt with long ago. Above all, commit your marriage to God and learn to forgive.
Some men like special attention.while praying why not go down on your kneels and plead with him to forgive the unknown offence you’ve committed,what i see in both of you is pride,theres nothing bad in playfully or soothinly asking for your offence too and be ready to appologise without giving extra reasons for those actions his complaining about.when he is then calm and in good mood some other time,bring the topic of his awkward reactions up in a polite way and tell him how it affects the home and you.this is what many wives does counsellors will only counsell you in an official way.then try to study him well to know his lyks and dislikes.over the years i’v come to realise that being married as a woman is a whole lot of task very challenging task which needs extra humility and more.everyman or woman have their other sides that pisses each other off but with Gods grace and divine wisdom people scale through.
Just pray and seek spiritual help from God cos he is the only one that has solutions to all problems.
Get busy & ignore him, make friends, involve yourself in church activities, browse & visit site dt will make u happy, never allow anyone to destroy your happiness
So sorry darling cos i feel your pain as a fellow woman. First of all you have to forgive yourself, forgive him & then ask d holy spirit to help you remove every mark,mask or stench dat is on you or him causing dis. Please pray & believe God. Goodluck dear
You just have to be more prayerful cos there is nothing impossible for God to do
you need to go on your kneels and keep praying for him and show him love like never before
Madam poster, wether the situation is physical or spiritual, there is only one solution and that is God. So start praying
If your not independent den try n be,ignore him n prepare your mind for d worse….above all prayer is the key
hmmmmn.just keep prayin n blievn things wd get better
Frustrating as it might be,I’m sorry to say but I will just ignore him till he comes around.Since you have done your best.You won’t kill yourself na.The only bad thing is that when there is no communication in marriage.the devil uses that opportunity to talk to the couple separately.They will each find themselves having terrible thoughts against each other.
Get busy, go for counselling and pray..I wish you well.
I don’t think you two.are meant to be and he’s not willing to get help.and communication with u. Leave him and move on with your life