DEAR MIM: It’s Been Two Years Since My Husband Made Love to Me
Mothers in the house, please I need your advice. It’s been two years since my husband made love to me and it has become a pattern, as for about 5 years now, he may not touch me at all till after one or two years.
I have tried my best; dressing well, doing lovely hairstyles, preparing tasty meals and prayed fervently. What more can a woman do?
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It’s so bad that if I enter my husband’s room, he shouts at me like a dog. He has refused to share the same room with me since we got married, claiming he doesn’t share a room with a woman.
Sometime ago, I was advised to talk to him. I did but he dismissed the conversation without giving any excuse. Our pastor has also talked to him, yet, no changes. I don’t want to divorce him because of my children. Two of them are already in the university. Besides, my husband is a very good dad and always cares for us.
I want to keep my home together but how can I get our intimacy back on track? I have endured enough; can’t control the urge any more. I know having an extramarital affair is a sin, but should I risk it? A friend recently advised me to. I think she is right or should I keep enduring this? What should I do?
Say what! 2 solid years, what must have gone wrong, even pastor have talked with him & no adjustment. I can only imagine what they are going thru.
My dear y not involve both families or is he into any secret court?
Confront him d more something is wrong
Speechless
Some women are really going through so much indeed; don’t even know what to say. I just read a story of a woman that got a divorced from the husband unexpectedly, but she is making it big & happy without her husband.
This is very suspicious, men want sex all the time. This is so absurd.
Two remedies came to my mind. Either assume you are a widow who vowed not to allow any man touch because of her undying love for the late husband or assume he travelled out of the country to get a better life for you and the kids and he is living up to it then would you be counting how many years he is away? So as you keep praying and telling God just be telling yourself these two things then that tendency to go out to look for sex outside will die naturally.
He doesn’t share a room with a woman and you never bothered to find out the reason all these years?When and where do you have husband and wife gist?For your kids to be in the university,it means you have endured this for many years.I don’t understand your marriage.Well I think you should really sit him down and have a long talk.It doesn’t have to be at home(as a matter of fact,it is best outside the home).Ask questions,tell him how you feel.Then from there,you’ll know what to do.Sex is food in marriage.One cannot talk about marriage without mentioning sex
Hmmmmmmmmmm
Na wa o 2whole yrs
If you must have sex please divorce him first so you can be free as a bird..Don’t cheat on him ooo cos you may die in the act, am suspecting him oo.
Speechless
I don’t really talk about something like this, but your story really called for it…There is a possibility that your husband is into something diabolical, I know some people don’t believe in these things, but this is Africa and some people practice these things…Some men don’t even allow their wives cook their food when they’re seeing their menses and there are specific times when they can sleep with their wives, not just anytime. P.S: Even if your husband wants to have a separate room for himself, I see no reason why he should be disgusted and shout at you whenever you enter his room, something is really amiss. I believe there is something he’s not telling you. #enoughsaid
My exact line of thought.
Nawoo, 2 whole years? Dat man must be into sometin
This just cast away the popular belief that men likes sex,honestly I can’t imagine not touching my wife to 2yrs,if I don’t who will,madam u need prayers cos what’s happening to your husband isn’t physical
Pls don’t have an extra marital affair. Just be patient and do some findings. You need to know if your husband is having an affair. If he’s not, then find out if he’s fetish or sometin. There must be sometin wrong cos a normal married man won’t stay without sex for so long while living under d same roof with his wife. He’s getting it else where or hes into sometin. Involve d two families if need be
Negligence is enough ground to get divorce, obviously the man does not want anything to do with you. Get family involved so that they know the reasons for your actions should u decides to move on. Nobody deserve to be treated like that….body no be stone
Am almost speechless. Madam just buy those blue pills and mix in his drink when to wo of you are alone and trust me he will break his two year fast.
Something is wrong somewhere
My dear, i advise you spend much time in prayer (and fasting), destroy whatever power involved in this situation, then ask God to guide you on what to do. Of course, you must be born again for this to work out.
Please, infidelity is not an option. Do prayerfully and wisely also involve spiritual leaders or family membes he respects. God will intervene.
Hope you didnt also give him cause to swear not to ‘touch you’? In that case, you have to ask for forgiveness from him ( after praying to God to melt and touch his heart beforehand)
He is definately hiding something from you.
That is eh??? Well I think his getting too much outside
This is really serious
My dear,pls dig deep!!there is something fishy about it.
Meeen seems ur huzzy is an occultic man or he has s,tin to do with the marine kingdom, look for a good Pentecostal church were the real word of Gos is been preached or better still look for a deliverance ministry were the whole thrut will be revealed to you and what to do.please never u indulge in promiscuity cos its not the way but rather it,ll worsen the whole thing. May God have mercy and see u thru in JN Amen.
this is serious
Are u sure u ve not done sumfin irritating to him before or caught u in any act of infidelity? If yes den he needed to be searched both in and out, nd seek some spiritual help too in ur findings in a reputable praying place not fake, nd if his actions r not attached wit any of ds d ball us in ur court u cn do wat makes ur hrt happy afterwards cos ds life is too short to be nothing but sad.