DEAR MIM: Since the Father of My Son Can’t Pay the Bills at 36, I Have Decided To This…
I will be 32 by June this year and in a relationship I don’t know whether to move on with or quit. I already have a son for this guy although it wasn’t planned. I discovered I was pregnant shortly after our introduction 3 years ago.
He is a very nice guy whom I have chosen with all my heart. However, my problem now is that his business is not doing well. He is not meeting up at all, can’t afford our traditional marriage rites talk less of the wedding proper. Even putting food on the table is an issue.
It’s so bad that now we can’t send our son to school. Not that I can’t afford to send him but I feel that if I start it now he will relax, feeling that I can do everything, including giving him money to go and fulfill my marriage rites – God forbid!
He is not a graduate like me who has a paid job, otherwise, I would have told him to look for a paid job like mine, so, we can assist each other in meeting our needs. He can’t seem to get anything lucrative with his qualification, besides, he’s doesn’t seem too keen on finding a job.
Right now, I want to move back with my mum because it’s been two years already and things are still the same, if not worse. I want to move back and start afresh. Do you think I’m doing the right thing?
To me oooooo since he is a business person just that business hasn’t been too good I will advice you start praying for him and also stand by him because if you leave him cos of his financial state people will blame you and call you mean.
Who says one needs a degree to make it in life and to take care of his responsibilities?Anyway,you know him better than we do.Just don’t start what you can’t continue.
If u leave him now and things later turn around for him what will u do this is d time he needs u more and time to prove your love for him if u can assist him with money to add to d business if u can
Hmmmmmmmmmmmm
Just keep praying for him.
My dear this is the time to stick with ur guy. No matter what it wont continue like this. Go to GOD in prayer and fasting and see what He would do
Ur wish is ur desire
U know what u want
Speechless
When business was doing well you were with him. Are you going to abandon him now that business is bad. If he’s a good man like you said, i don’t think he’ll shirk off his responsibilty because you are helping out in time of need. So to me, i think he needs encouragement not rejection. I’m saying all these based on what you wrote.
But you know him better.
U can’t continue living with a man dat u r not married to, move out n continue praying for him, it is well.
you have already made up your mind before coming here already,they have said it all stick with him
Why cohabiting in the first place?
Why cohabiting with him in the first place? The fact you are his baby mama doesn’t warant that.
As you like woman
Hmmmm
You ain’t even married to this guy, from what you wrote he has only done introduction which is not marriage. You guys are just committing fornication. Move out of there, if you love him, pray for him to get better and come marry you properly.
Hmmmm, seems you have already make up your mind but I just want to let you that assuming his financially okay you won’t talk about his level of education and moving out of his place, just think twice
My darling sis. Why did you start living with him in the first place, this is where the mistake started from, preggy or not, he should have done the necessary things b4 moving in. That baby is your child as well pls enroll him in school biko. So many businessmen this day are finding it tough Pls pray for him cos you never knows what tomorrow will bring *Echidime*
Madam if ur husband business is not doing well 2day doesn’t means it will never do well again. It will callous of you not to send ur child to school wen you can afford it and your husband can’t.. 2mrw is too big to be judged by 2days difficulties…
Hmmmm
Pls move out and send ur son to school.introduction is not marriage.