Contrary to popular belief, you don’t need to be a sex guru to be an awesome lover.
Instead, it comes down to more subtle and realistic qualities that you already possess, but may have no idea how to make use of.
A lot of things happen in marriages that can reduce the level of action you get between the sheets, and sometimes it just looses its flare and becomes more of a boring routine.
Some of the following can help improve your sex life:
- Learn to laugh at the good stuff
Weird noises, sounds, and failed positions happen during sex, but if you can be comfortable with it and still manage to enjoy yourself, you show your partner that you are comfortable with them and yourself, even in your most vulnerable state. Which in turn makes them freer with you. Not every married couple have this bond. that’s what makes someone amazing in the sack.
- Be spontaneous
Men find it attractive and oddly arousing, when a woman can take control of things in the bed. Not to say to make it a habit, but however sometimes surprise your husband. Wake him up with a blowjob (if you are into that sort of thing) or waiting on the bed in lingerie, these are the little things that make a huge impact.
- Be willing to try new things
You don’t have to hang from a tree or hang upside down to have fun with your partner. Just be willing to try new things. It is true that everybody has their limits when it comes to sex, but doing the same old moves or routines all the time can get really boring.
- Be selfless when it comes to his pleasure
Practicing compassion in every area of your life is nice, but practicing it in the bedroom can make you a very sexy lover. It can be very appealing to a man, when his partner focuses on pleasing him just for the sake of it. It’s all about treating your partner how you’d like to be treated in bed.
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- Be innovative
The fact that you are married does not mean that sex is limited to the bedroom alone. Make use of the couch, the kitchen counter, etc. Once the children are out of the way, get naughty with your husband ????
- Avoid being judgemental
Everybody has fantasies, especially men. There is no law that says you have to do what he wants, especially when you are not comfortable with it. It is however appealing, when you get him to share his fantasies with you, and not judge him about it or make him feel self conscious either.
- Don’t be self conscious
Confidence is the sexiest asset you can have. When you are not worried about your stretch marks, or the noise you make during love making, or the way your face looks. It shows him that you trust him with your body. If you can loosen up around him, you will find that this will increase your pleasure during sex. Being able to let loose is a great attribute to a partner. Men want to know that their wives are enjoying the sex with them, and a moan, grabbing their neck or holding them while at it, lets them know they are about getting it just right for you..
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