Dear MIMsters: Am I losing a good man?
I am twenty-five years old but still single. I am a teacher in a high school. Recently, a male colleague invited me to his house for lunch, after that he told me that he likes me a lot. Well, I like him too but didn’t tell him.
A week later, he invited me again for supper and I accepted and went. Later that night, he tried to convince me to spend the night in his house which I did. What I did not like was he wanted us to have sex that same night. I completely refused because we are not yet in a relationship.
Now, he is not talking to me anymore because of this, and being in the same working station with him is making it awkward for me.
My question is, did I do the right thing to refuse to have sex with him? I am afraid I may be losing a good man. What do you think?
A good man you say? A good man will never ask for sex from someone he is just getting to know. A good man will not pressure you into sex. A good man will not stop talking to you because you refused him sex. If for nothing, he would respect you even more. So spare me that loosing a good man line. He has just shown you who he really is, now it is your turn to run. He just needs a bed mate not a relationship.
my sister pls you are not losing any good man.A man that wants a serious relationship with you will not stop talking to you because you refused to sleep with him.He should even respect you for not giving in.You shouldn’t feel awkward since nothing happened .This is hit n run my dear.Run..Run…Run!
He’s not a good man and you are losing nothing.
Suck it up and move on. Your own good man is out there waiting to meet the beautiful you.
He is obviously not a good man, for trying 2 hv sex with u while not in a relationship. Pls forget him fast, behave like he doesnt exist. He is the kind dat would use and dump u, then tell his friends abt it.
Pls never sell ur self cheap, ur man would come for u be patient and build ursef. A man should respect his lady, that man doesnt hv respect for u. Trust God ur man will come in due time , ur dignity should be ur utmost concern as a lady. Dont let any man take that away from u.
how can u spend a night in his house when u not evn dating…first Dats cheap.secondly he isn’t a good man.but wants to use u as a fling a good ban would wait for u evn till wedding night…dnt be desperate r b in a hurry…